Thursday, November 19, 2009

Internet Dating Etiquette?

So I've met a guy through internet dating. We've been seeing each other for about 5 weeks, talking or texting every day. We get along great, he's my type and I can see myself seeing him for a while, though I'm not sure he is long term material. He is definately interested in me, he is extremely complimentary to me and a complete gentleman. Our friendship has progressed this last week and we did the deed. This in itself doesn't bother me as this is how long I would wait in a 'normal' relationship (please don't tell me to wait till marriage, I'm a big girl!!!). The issue that confuses is me is that I have taken down my profile (admittedly this was about 3 weeks ago, which he knows about), yet he hasn't taken his down and i know he has had activity on there, he bought up the subject and said he can't take it down until he has used his 'stamps'.:


Do I have a right to ask him what his intentions are in this relationship?


Can I ask him to take his profile down?


Opinions anyone?????

Internet Dating Etiquette?
It's too soon sweetie. While you may like the guy a lot, you don't really know him very well. And he's obvioulsy still looking. I would not make a big stink about him keeping his profile up... and I definately wouldn't ask him what his 'intentions' are. You need to be more like him. Keep your options open, and date some other people (even if you don't want to) That way, you'll have a distraction or two on standby for those times when you feel a bit needy. Remember, he's not your boyfriend yet and its unfair of you to expect him to act like it.
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Reply:It seems to me that his act of not disabling his profile means that he is still open to dating others and still seeing or entertaining others. The question is: Are you wanting an open relationship or a committed (closed) relationship? You need to discuss this with him, openly and directly. (Actually, you should have discussed this with him before doing the deed, so you'd have an idea of what to expect.)





It doesn't seem like he is as committed to you as you are seemingly committed to him.





By the way, you can ask him to disable his profile, and he just may do it, but how do you know, for sure, that he does not have another one (or many others)? There are lots of online dating sites out there.





Good luck!
Reply:I am dating a man I met on the internet and yes you have the right to ask him where your relationship is going as I did my guy and he took his profile down as I took mine down.
Reply:you just mentioned you don't see him as a long term material, so what's the big deal, have your fun full knowing you're not going to keep him. maybe he sees you the same way.


What's better? Internet dating or meeting people randomely?

I was thinking that internet dating is becoming way more prevalent. Everyone has a story about some sister's cousin's best friend who met someone online. But are the old methods of meeting someone at a party/bar/grocery-story better than internet dating?

What's better? Internet dating or meeting people randomely?
Yes! I finally get to answer this question! Internet dating is one of the coolest things invented by man! I am a pretty hot chick and because of that certain men don't approach me in 'real life'. the internet gave them the green light to talk and for us to meet. This increased my chances of meeting someone by 100% because I didn't even have to leave my house to meet a man! My objective was to actually meet someone and not just cyber chat, so responded to local men only responses ( I never initiated contact ). Long story short, I met a lot of nice guys, went out on a whole bunch of fun dates, met one jerk who's emails and telephone number I blocked and got rid of, had a couple of stale conversations, but never made a love connection. The difference i found was how lax i had been in my personal safety. For instance i was sure to meet my cyber dates in public places driving my own car. back in the day, I met someone at the mall, we talked on the phone, he picked me up at my house, and took me in his car to another state for dinner. Nothing bad happenned but my point is i wouldn't dream of doing that with someone i met on line. The same people on line are the same people walking down the street--least we forget we ourselves are on line!
Reply:I'm not sure about meeting people randomly because I've never done it. I've always stuck to meeting people from online, but I'm not on any dating sites. I used Myspace out of all sites. I used to talk to people all the time on Myspace and I've met.... 6 guys (I think) from there and I dated I think 2 or 3 of them. I think it's cool online because you get to know the person better and specially if they've never seen a picture of you and then they do, I mean it's like, you get to know the person by their personality and you judge them on that rather than their appearance.





I love it a lot but I am, once I start working and getting out a lot more when the weather gets better, going to start looking to meeting someone randomly in person.








♥ Christina
Reply:I prefer meeting someone in person first. Meeting online is too awkward, and most of the time I can't seem to put the face with the personality I thought they had.


Internet dating tip?

I've been internet dating for a bit trying to find the woman of my dreams. Can't seem to attract much attention from those that i'd want attention from. All my messages are polite, i'm good looking (so people tell me). The only thing i've left off my profile is anything that indicates my wealth. Have to put details of this on (in a round about way) or do you think this will attract the wrong type.

Internet dating tip?
yea definately leave wealth off!!! you don't want some gold digger after you, and find out that she is one after it's already too late. lol


My tip would be, try different sites, don't just stick to the same one(s). Check out myspace (I know, its a bit teenage, but there's actually a lot of older men and women on there!) Try chatting at different times of the day. Usually the nights are reserved for weirdos and freaks. lol (no offense people! lol) If the topic of relationship/dating doesn't seem to work, go to another topic, maybe music, or cars. Whatever you're into.


good luck!!!


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Reply:Never put your heart in to it.
Reply:just because you have money doesnt make you a catch, so yes i dont think you will attract the wrong type!!





love doesnt care what or who the person is!





respect yourself and you will find your woman





good luck
Reply:If you're after a trophy girlfriend then yes you should. If you're after a soulmate then your wealth is irrelevant. Go figure.
Reply:lol,, (WINK WINK) R U LOADED BABE?
Reply:Obviously you are lame! no wonder you can't get attention. you don't even know how to date online and asking on yahoo answers!! get a life!
Reply:I wouldn't show any details of your wealth...It would either make you look smug...or attract the wrong type!
Reply:First of all, you are most likely NOT going to find the woman of your dreams on the internet. If she was that great, she wouldn't be looking for love on the internet. Second, if you are wealthy, and you put that, every "gold digger" in the country will be after you.LOL You don't want some woman who is interested in only your money, and if you do add your net worth to your profile, you will never know if they truly care about you, even if they do.
Reply:You can leave that information off, it really is not needed. Good luck
Reply:if you're rich it will attract the wrong type i would say...... leave it off dude!
Reply:i would not put anything about money online. A true love will love you rich or poor.
Reply:Yes...you don't want to attract a female b/c of your wealth dude. I'd also suggest that you not limit your dating options to the internet. Get out there and play!! It's actually easier to approach someone you actually live around, come in contact with through friends, school, activities, etc. Internet dating is a real challenge. good Luck
Reply:I met my partner on the internet, i can't say i took any notice of his wealth on his profile. I do believe there are a lot of people who would only be interested in the money side of your profile. So please be careful





Be patient and the right lady will come along.
Reply:probably......i wouldnt indicate my salary on a dating site its totally irrelevant to the person that you are
Reply:You want someone to like you for you, not your brand new 51 inch flat screen tv, penthouse flat, Porsche, gucci shoes, d and g suits etc... all that is crap...





Example.... I was out one evening with friends, when a young gentleman approached me and we struck up a conversation... he told me that he earnt a six figure salary etc... I said, I dont give a damn about your wealth... it is what is on the inside that counts, and you really don't need to brag about your wealth... It sounds sad and desperate.





Get a personality





If you really think that you are going to find your dream woman off an internet dating site...............welll... I think you are sadly and sorely wrong.... Yes I am single and am proud of it, and just because I am fat, ugly, over forty etc, doesnt make me deseperate! lol....





Dont rely on internet dating sites, it is all contrived bollox and you meet people that you would not meet in real life... get out there, join evening classes, take up a hobby, just get out and about etc... love will happen when it happens....





Good luck and please dont brag about your wealth it aint funny, it aint bit and it certainly aint clever...

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Internet dating scary!!?

If I use an internet dating site and I send a message to someone, can they find my IP address and come to my house?

Internet dating scary!!?
First of all I met my Wife on the Internet and I'm very much alive and happy.





Secondly, the only way to trace your ip address back to your physical address is through your ISP.





Someone would have to have access to the DHCP logs to know which account was assigned that ip address when and then cross check that with thier customer records to find out the address for the account.





The truth is they probably could do this with you first and last name or e-mail address just as easily so it's really not something to worry about.





Also keep in mind if you're using the dating site to send the measages and not email they probably won't be able to get your ip address anyway.
Reply:This is why I never give my exact street address when I sign up with a ISP. I usually give them my PO Box # %26amp; I have my phone listed as an anagram of my name. My late hubby's ex-wife took up a new hobby after his death, "stalking". She got ticked off, when she learned, he left her $2 in his will for services rendered while they were married.


If it were me I'd chat only with folks %26amp; leave it at that. For a serious relationship, I'd try to find a fellowship that participated in some of the same hobbies.
Reply:I don't know if they can or not. It can be very scary and you should be careful. I will say that I met my husband 11 years ago in windy city chat room, and as nervous as I was to meet him, it was the best thing I ever did. We have been very happily married for 9 1/2 years. Then 3 years ago, my mother, met a man through a dating site, and they have been dating since. So, it does work out for some people. Good luck and I hope it works out for you.
Reply:They can't get exactly to your house. They can find close to your city, but usually even the city is off on IP searches. It won't give them your home address.





My opinion - DATE REAL PEOPLE!!! :(
Reply:not if you use a proxy no.
Reply:i don't know, but DON'T DO IT!!! better safe than sorry!
Reply:I've used internet dating, and no they can't locate your address, But according to how old you are be careful if you intend meeting up with someone, arrange for you to be dropped off by your friend and get the car number, tell a friend who you are meeting and where you are going, phone at certain times to let them know your ok even if it means going to the loo todo so, and if you want out get them to pick you up, and don't go too far from home try and stay in a place where you know.
Reply:If he or she is techy enough SURE! I would just not do it, safer that way!
Reply:IP addresses do not supply that that level of tracking. At best they can find out what ISP your on (AOL or somthing) but not where you live. And i doubt that any dating site would send your IP to anyone.
Reply:No, they can't find your IP address and even if they could, is pretty damn hard to track an IP address to an specific physical address.





The most someone could find out, and that is the dating site, is who is your ISP (internet service provider)





So you are safe on that regards, just, don't give your personal information to anyone on the net.


Do you think internet dating is better than face to face meeting in your own area?

Since internet dating started, Idid think it was a good idea, but for some reason the internet seems to be a Cross country,or a state to state meeting ground. over 4 years on a few particular sites and in all that time never met anyone local. The people that write and call the most who have the deepest interest or who seem the most interesting are always in other states. While in NYC I have spoken to women in Sacramento, Seattle, Houston, Chicago, Atlanta, Ft Lauderdale, Phoenix, etc.. and have been up and down the east coast to other states (14 total) yet never met someone in the same city or county. I cannot just get up and go to California or Texas to meet and date these people. It would always be the strongest preference for someone near enough to be with often. I can't deal with these cross country matchups. Also in one hour on the net you can meet as many as 100 people so don't you think that makes it even more confusing when trying to decide who is the right person?

Do you think internet dating is better than face to face meeting in your own area?
Put in that you live in NY City. Not willing to travel.
Reply:I think you should try Myspace.com. It could narrow it to more local and people right in your area and it's more personal. Plus it's free and simple.


Internet Dating - where Does the magic go?

Why does internet dating frizzle as quick as it is established? Meet someone and the magic is just gone..The fantasy is gone for both I think. What now?

Internet Dating - where Does the magic go?
Because it is more fun to connect with people offline and look into their eyes and observe their behavior.
Reply:I've been doing long distance for 5 years. We met on the internet (we weren't looking. It was a game site).





It looks like you're looking for a thrill. The magic my husband and I have is still going strong.


Internet Dating is not where it is at. Why is there so many scammers to ruin everything?

I am single and have been on three internet dating sites. Every contact has been a scammer. Asking for me to sign documents, money and ask me to marry them right away. I am losing faith that there are decent people out there.

Internet Dating is not where it is at. Why is there so many scammers to ruin everything?
your right. i have tried also. it's a real waste of time. i learned that right away.
Reply:I prefer the smaller dating sites and the niche sites. I recommend trying





http://www.hotwomenrichmen.com
Reply:I found the love of my life on the internet, but not a dating site... we met in a yahoo chatroom years ago, which made it that much better because we met under circumstances that showed we already had something in common... through talking for years and debating in the chatroom we became close and realized we had so much more in common... to me the dating sites can be a lot like dating tv shows in the "real" world... so many misses for ever hit... and there are decent people out there, maybe you just aren't looking in the right places
Reply:That is really unfortunate, but don't give up





wishing you the best!

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Internet Dating, c'mon guys??

Any success or horror stories about internet dating? I'm thinking of giving it a try.

Internet Dating, c'mon guys??
a girl dated a guy ont he internet...he was a alien SCARY lol
Reply:I met this girl a few years back and on the first date after a couple of drinks she was introducing me as her boyfriend. When ended up being intimate a few days later and then she actually accused me of cheating already because I didn't want to spend the night. I changed my number after I ran like hell to get away from her. You really have to be careful and take your time getting to know someone before meeting up.
Reply:Do it! i met the most amazing girl of my life through it.





I met her, she turned out to be VERY nice.....so after about a week i asked her out, and we've been dating strong ever since.been a few months now, and she told me I'm the one for her.....





It enhances the dating experience because you have to get to know someone ALOT better when you cant hang out with em in person everyday.....





thus, Internet dating rules for very serious relationships
Reply:If you do try internet dating, don't lie about what you look like. That has happened to me several times. A girl would tell me she is a bit overweight but when I met her for the first time she was boardering on Morbidly obese...nearly 300 pounds, I had lunch with her and that was it.





But I have also met a great girl whom I dated on and off for 9 years now. We are only friends now but we met on the internet. So you can meet pretty good people on the internet.





Anyway be careful with what information you give out as well. Especially if you are under 18.





Good luck
Reply:have fun paying money....
Reply:a girl dated a guy on the internet and they ended up going to court because he was 30 and she was 13 and he started to stalk her and all this other crap. another one of my friends dated over the internet and the guy stalked her for about 2 years and then ended up killing her with one shot to the head. so my advice to you is to just not do it cuz you never know what kind of maniac youre really talking to.
Reply:Give it a try if you wish, with caution..You meet during the day, at a outdoor place, have lunch. Never go back to the home. If it works out do it again, during the day...Face to face is best...Good luck!
Reply:i used a few diff sites. eharmony worked pretty well for me. was with a great guy for more than 9 months. he just had left over issues from his exwife and wasn't able to commit more to long term so we broke up.


i dated a guy i met off a yahoo chat room for almost a year. i can't remember why we didn't work out.


i had a date with a guy from another site... he came in sweat pants with a hole in the butt and a cut off tshirt. very cheesey


i ended that one realllll quick.





i would consider doing it again. just eharmony. i think they really do a good job matching people.
Reply:do not think try ptenty of fish free site or payed site chery blossom may see you there ps i found my dream girl there john


Internet dating - how to say no nicely?

When you have met over the internet and finally meet for a cup of coffee, and you like him but don't want to continue dating,


what's the best way to tell a guy thanks but no thanks?

Internet dating - how to say no nicely?
ok well, first of all, thank him for having time to meet up with u. then tell him how romantic or how nice he sounded(well if he was) on the internet. tell him that u have decided to not go on because u r afraid ur relationship wouldn't really last long and that u aren't ready. AND also tell him that u really liked him.





ok, well that's my opinion. and i wish u best of luck telling him how u feel! :P
Reply:I've been in this situation and it is indeed awkward. If you've only met once or twice I would say you're not obligated to tell him face-to-face unless you feel comfortable. I would just send a quick email and say "hey, I really like you but I don't feel like we're clicking romantically" and not get into too many details over the reasons why unless he asks. It's tricky if you would like to remain friends; hopefully he won't feel hurt. Good luck!
Reply:you shouldnt be ;dating' online - next time, meet sooner and stay friends first.
Reply:it's not clear whether you want to end things completely with him, or if you want to change the relationship to a friendship. anyway, be honest but gentle, and don't talk about who you're dating in glowing terms (i.e. effectively, "this guy is so much better than you", that sort of thing).
Reply:Delete his myspace, change your phone number, and praay he doesn't know where you live.
Reply:send an e mail with polite wording


Internet dating sites?

Has anyone tried any of the internet dating sites (eg., match.com, yahoo personals, etc.), which are supposed to be guaranteed to find you someone special, and still had no luck?

Internet dating sites?
no,i havent tried because i dont believe in finding my perfect match through a virtual platform %26amp; moreover most of the people have fake profiles %26amp; are far more different than they actually present themselves,so dont fall for that crap.





Good Luck
Reply:finding a date online is very easy... but meeting someone you really like is the hard part...





the answer is in numbers... contact lots of people... meet for lunch to see if you get along and go from there.





good payed sites are yahoo and match





good free sites are plentyoffish and abmatch
Reply:The best ones are





http://www.intimateadults.com


http://www.123personals.com


http://www.web-personals.us
Reply:I met several boyfriends on match.com. They just weren't the ones for me, so I tried E-Harmony and found the love of my life! It really can work!!!! We've been together for 9 months now and plan to be officially engaged in Dec. I've never been happier and in love!!!! Try it, it's worth a shot. (We even lived 120 miles apart)
Reply:I've tried several and found my one true love on yahoo personals. I'm personally sick of people bashing the internet dating sites. I am 45, a single mom, work full-time and don't bar hop. Where in the hell do I go to meet men? I don't go to singles dances, nor do I go to support groups. I grocery shop to find food, not a man. I go to church to worship, not to gawk at men. Internet dating was safe for me because I used my head. I could read profiles, talk on the phone with them, send emails, and choose who I wanted to date. It's no different than meeting a man in a bar and wondering if he's genuine. Just use your head, be smart and safe.
Reply:uuuuum... I'll try not to be harsh on this one... GET OF YOUR @$$ AND GO MEET PEOPLE IN REAL WORLD!!! That's what you do...
Reply:I met my husband on yahoo personals. I tried others but liked yahoo best. :)
Reply:Yes I did and had no luck. The next step was getting my azz off of the computer and getting into the real world where I was supposed to be.
Reply:1, Don't believe the best or the largest dating site is the right dating site for you.





2, Write enough about yourself and make sure others will know you a lot.





3, Be active and try to contact as many people as possible.





4, Choose the right dating site. My lover is met on millioanirecupid.com which is a niche dating site for wealthy and attractive singles, Maybe you can give it a try.





5, Lean dating tips and learn others' dating experiences.





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Reply:yeah at mate1.com u can find a date there, but I believe in a real relationship not fake.


Internet dating -- How do you weed out the creeps?

I just posted my profile on match.com (without a photo). I've never used an internet dating website before. I've received some winks and a couple of emails. Any tips for (1) identifying the guys I want to respond to and (2) determining what kind of relationship he is looking for?

Internet dating -- How do you weed out the creeps?
Within a few correspondences they usually tell you. If they ask creepy questions, and only want to talk about sex he is creep and can safely be weeded.
Reply:You never know who you are talking to online. The only way to weed out a creep is to get to know him in the real world, I guess. But even then, be careful, it could all be an act and he could be a creep
Reply:Get tips and ideas here on internet dating
Reply:see his profile
Reply:you cant...a lot (not all) are fakes. if you feel more comfortable...do a background check.
Reply:that is kind of tough to do. i have tried the dating thing online before and have sworn it off. many of the guys i have met post old pics and when we meet, they look nothing like their pic. or they claim to be something they are not. like they'll put in their ad "i am honest, straight foward, blah blah blah." guess what, they arent. you are better off posting a pic, because they'll most likely ask. i would ask a guy for his pic. if you are interested in someone, go to their profile. read it and then decide if you want to talk to them. chat for a bit, then go to the phone calling a few times, then meet if you are comfy enough. another thing that stinks about the online thing is that there are too many other profiles that they can check out. if you want a better site, maybe try eharmony...but they charge like $60-$70 a month!!!


hope you have better luck than i did!

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Internet Dating sites..Why do the majority of guys..?

Recently I have been checking out Internet Dating sites for a article.. one thing i noticed with all of them is that the majority of guys (like 90%), regardless of how they look.. all rate themselves as "above average" or "attractive"...? Ok, not all the women were beauty contest winners but they were more honest than the men!





I am aware that this is a statement and not really a question, but I just felt like throwing it out there.....!

Internet Dating sites..Why do the majority of guys..?
"Maybe the women on those sights have assumed that their problems are with their looks. While the men have assumed the problem is with the women they were dating."





That is an excellent observation! I like that.








I find that guys are in general more confident than girls. A guy friend of mine told me about his exes and one generalization he made was, all of them are extremely self aware and shameful (even though they are pretty). I have guy friends that are just average looking (not someone you would turn around for a second glance) but they actually admit that they think they are very good looking.





Maybe these men who rated themselves as "above average" or "attractive" really believed they are good looking.
Reply:Well. Those are the guys who are too desperate for a partner.


They worry and lie and say 'above average' (but in reality, they are as ugly as ____) so they can hope that a female believes him and will start to interact with him.


The guys you are talking about are the guys who do not know how to create a good (honest) profile.
Reply:Dont be a pathetic loser and join dating sites. Please. That is the most ignorent thing I have ever heard of. YOU DONT EVEN GET TO BE WITH THEM
Reply:Because guys need interest to serment the foundation of their fragile egos, and to do this must rate themselves higher then average so to gain this much needed attention. in short guys are vain and unethical. they are morons.





apart from me!! only joking
Reply:Maybe the women on those sights have assumed that their problems are with their looks. While the men have assumed the problem is with the women they were dating.
Reply:Well- opinions matter. Maybe they really believe that. Perhaps even their dating lives bare that out for them. Remember, attractinveness is a matter of taste. Just because they're not your taste doesn't mean that they're not above average.





By the same token, also remember that no matter what they say, in the end when you pick whomever you pick, they have to be right for you. Don't worry so much about what they say about themselves physically. (90%) of that's exaggeration on both sides, anyway. Instead, look at what you think the person might be like, and if that's attractive- maybe the rest won't mean so much.
Reply:hmmmm interesting. do you suppose that girls are aware of what IS more attractive than guys do? could be the reason girls are so worried about their looks more than guys are. dunno. what is beautiful or attractive really IS in the eye of the beholder?
Reply:Wonder if I joined one and described myself as brute ugly, how many replies I would get?
Reply:I rate myself on dating sites as average. I do this because I believe my looks are just that, average. Although I work out often, have an athletic build and stand 5 ft. 11 in., I am blind in an eye. Since the eye that is blind looks different from the one which has sight, I rate my looks as average. I make up for that by being very honest, hehehe!
Reply:men have bigger ego's. and don't let someone else tell you that you are pathetic if you join a dating site, not everyone joins a dating site to find a mate, some join to chat and meet new people online only.


Internet Dating Question For Men?

If you met a woman on an internet dating site, and she came to visit you from another state, Would you allow her to stay in your home?

Internet Dating Question For Men?
Assuming she was comfortable with that, yes, but I wouldn't expect that.
Reply:yes of course i would and did --- it did not work out but she did visit twice ---- enjoy
Reply:hell no
Reply:Sure. If I invited her from another state, I think that would have been expected.





If she showed up on her own, then there is always the Motel 6.
Reply:Nope. I made all first dates with the same rule: Gotta have an escape plan.





Every first date was either wine after work, or lunch in a public place. There's no reason to assume that someone portrays themselves truthful, so it has to be verified.





One date lasted 8 minutes (she was a dog) One date lasted 15 minutes (She was totally weird). My last date lasted 517 days. I found a keeper. But even she and I took it slow at first.





Good luck. Plan your out. If there's mutual interest, you'll know.
Reply:It depends. How long have we been communicating? I would have to feel comfortable with her and know her pretty well. But yeah, I probably would if I trusted her.
Reply:Depends on how long we have been talking. If its over six months I would say yes. If not I probably would not want her to visit that soon. If she insisted then I would say you could come but you would have to get a hotel room. If things worked out then she might not be staying there but it would be good to have a back up plan.
Reply:NO.


becaus how does he no that your not a thief.. think about it .its no logical..


sorry








hope i helped a lil


*shorty*
Reply:Why not?





I will definitely allow her to stay at my home, even my bedroom but we will not sleep on the same bed!
Reply:As a woman, I wouldn't feel safe doing that....
Reply:It depends on how long we had been involved on line. How long we emailed back and forth. I guess how much we knew about each other! How often we chatted on the phone. Whether or not she had a criminal record! Then, if everything checked out, yes!
Reply:yes.
Reply:yes, but if it was reversed i would tell my daughter HELL NO!!!
Reply:If she were hot and I had good vibes that she was not a psycho or a con woman ... hell yea.
Reply:yes but the problem is that any internet dating site contains 300 women and 3000 men.


so good luck getting your email threw when 600 other guys are too!! lol
Reply:no i dont think so
Reply:sure she can sleep in the garage.


Internet Dating Sites?

I have looked on at least a dozen different Internet dating sites over the last few years and I haven't found anyone that's interested me enough to join so I could message them. Am I just too darn picky or what?

Internet Dating Sites?
I met my wonderful husband on Matchmaker.com





I loved the site and everyone I met and the couple I dated were totally cool guys.





When I saw/read my husbands profile I completely knew he was the one. Honestly.... it was love at first sight.





I had previously been married with a son, he had never been married. We became engaged, bought a house, got married and had our first child together all within 10 months. We have been together 6 years.





He is a degreed professional, is the kindest person I have ever met and makes a killing to provide for the (now) five of us.





HONEST.... check out the sight. Back when I was on it (6 years ago) you got the first two weeks free.





Good luck!!!!! I thank God everyday for matchmaker.com





mb
Reply:It could be you are too picky, perhaps you are wasting your time trying to search for the perfect internet site when you should be going to your local social events blah blah, and talk to people.


Internet Dating, What Attracts Women to a Mans Profile?

What makes a woman respond to a Mans Internet Dating Profile? Is it his photo? or what he writes in the Profile?

Internet Dating, What Attracts Women to a Mans Profile?
Most women want to find something to identify with in the profile. That makes it not so strange that you're meeting someone online. Funny, but not "Jackass the Movie" funny.





A picture is nice, but most often people don't look like their pictures. So your going to have to hook her with words.
Reply:An oversized photo of your junk.

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Internet dating rip offs.?

I have been single for 7 months and so I have tried a few internet dating thingos. I have found that most are fronts for "Russian Bride" scams (they write for a while then ask for money to come and visit) or full of absolute nutters (not that I am saying that I am perfect). What are other peoples experiences?





PS. No I won't lend you $850 to help out with the airfare so that you can come and visit....

Internet dating rip offs.?
ahhhh, i see you arent the only one fed up with the scams.all the dating services are phoney...no exceptions at all!!they all make big promises to you ,then offer FREE membership,and at the end of the scam, they ask for credit card number... ha ha..
Reply:If you live in an area with lots of people your are, try eHarmony. But whatever you do, STAY AWAY FROM "GREATER EXPECTATIONS!"
Reply:Well, you got to be careful. But yes, internet can help communicate. It worked for some people including a person I knes in real life. OK.... Be careful. I would liek to try to date you but am so far off here across oceans...hehehe
Reply:Well no internet relationship that I've had has turned out like this. They've never asked me for anything, I guess maybe it's different for some people, we get lucky.
Reply:Myspace.com just try that and you are guaranteed a date
Reply:ps your just starting to pay if you play
Reply:All the people are not same, trust me, there are good people in the world. I met my wife on the internet, we met, and we both love each other very much. Nothin is as beautiful as having her in my life. Its just the trust that matters, you can change the people with goodness in your soul, but, surely, every coin has two sides.


RECOMMENDATION: Never pay $
Reply:ive heard this story a lot
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Reply:Forget about overseas women---they will use you for whatever they want and dump you------get a chick thats already here.
Reply:Try plentyoffish.com Its totally free and not a ripoff.
Reply:they talk a lot about this and go into more elaborate detail on craigslist! you are not imagining it... it is a dirty little scheme really. People shouldn't toy with those lookng for love :)
Reply:Don't do it there are lots of women in the usa just start trying harder. start talking more.


Internet dating dilemma?

Internet dating problem.


Man is nice enough and you have had one good phone conversation.


Man lives 2000 miles away and can't/won't move due to job.


You don't particularly want to move and leave your house, family, life.


He isn't religious at all and thinks praying is a waste of time.


You are fairly religious and pray often, read the Bible, etc. Religion is important to you.


His idea is to meet, see if it clicks and if so, have you move to his state and get married.


He's nice but the distance and the religion differences make you feel very already disappointed and unhappy. He said he will not at all go to church or embrace religion in any way.


Cut it off now or continue to get to know him?

Internet dating dilemma?
If you are that unhappy now, what's it going to be like when you meet?? If he said he wasn't going to Church at all or embrace it and that is what you like, then why try? He seems like he isn't going to change and you can only help someone change when they are willing to. Then you don't want to move leave your life, family etc, and again it sounds like he isn't willing to move/change his life up to be with you, Sorry not to hurt you or burst your bubble!....Move on Sweetie, find a good man who has more in common and who likes going to Church and more of the things you like, Also who lives closer so if you do hit it off neither one will have to make a sacrfice and leave, family friends, etc! :))








-- I wish you happiness! %26amp;* Good luck!








Yes, Sweetie, definitely follow your gut feeling. Most of the time it is never wrong. I am not going to kid with you if you love him and care it will be hard at first but remember life DOES go on, and time heals everything. Also if you are not happy and staying with him for other reasons, You could indeed miss out on a great person, Let go and see what happens, or take a break and see if he changes. Remember: "If you love someone let them go, if they come back to you, they were always yours, if they don't then they never were". At first (When and if you do break it off) go to Church Functions, visit Family, catch up on something you were meaning to, just keep your mind off it. Time heals all and you will find you a great man who will respect you and love you for you and what you have to offer! Keep your head high! By the way, Yes he may be a nice person indeed, you just didn't hit it off, Just because you didn't hit it off with him don't mean his is a horrible person it happens it's life, You could still be friends and stay in touch with one another, Sometimes we think we have more in common with someone when chatting/typing but when you actually speak to them it reveals and whole other side and you see that maybe it isn't going to work and that's okay don't feel bad, Not everyone you meet will be "Mr. Right" just keep moving on until you find him. "Don't settle for the person you can live with, Settle for the one you can't live without" I hope this helps you and sorry it is so long! :))





P.S: If you need anything else feel free to send an E-Mail I will help you with whatever I can! :))








-- Best wishes to you!! *hugs*
Reply:Don't allow religious beleifs to stop it from progressing. You can still pray and attend services without him.


Internet dating hasn't worked for. How else can I meet a partner?

I've tried the internet dating thing for about two years and it just hasn't worked for me. There seem to be so many people who pretend to want to be in serious relationships, but they are actually just out for flings. This seems to be common on most sites.





How else can I meet a potential partner, out of cyberspace?





I'm not into picking men up at bars, because that can never be long-term.





I'm an attractive 26 yr old female and I haven't had that One True Love yet, but would like it with the right person.





Any suggestions on how to meet available single men in a big city?





Or are some people just destined to be single souls for the rest of her life?





Please don't answer and say: don't look for love , it'll come to you....That sort of approach seems highly speculative!

Internet dating hasn't worked for. How else can I meet a partner?
hey i'm 25 and i've never had any girlfriend before. i had a crush on this girl one time and i worked so hard to get her but at last i failed. it might be my problem or hers, i don't really know.


hey, try speed dating. it might work!


good luck, i hope u find your true love. wish me luck too. :)
Reply:My friends Dave has got a success story from a dating site called millionairecupid.com. She is quite perfect for him. Now they are happily married. You can give it a try there.
Reply:hey im in the same boat im 29 and at this point in my life im looking to settle down now of course i dont mean get married rite away but to date a girl seriously witht the intensions of maybe getting married some day. but now adays it just seems that all girl wanna do is have one night stands and party all the time. Iv also tried the onlne dating thing and even the whole club scence, church, freindly gatherings, and other stuff and i cant find any one all i can say is good luck, iv been single for like 4yrs now. Hey maybe you and me should meet up and get to know each other and see were it goes. contact me.


Internet dating hasn't worked for. How else can I meet a partner?

I've tried the internet dating thing for about two years and it just hasn't worked for me. There seem to be so many people who pretend to want to be in serious relationships, but they are actually just out for flings. This seems to be common on most sites.





How else can I meet a potential partner, out of cyberspace?





I'm not into picking men up at bars, because that can never be long-term.





I'm an attractive 26 yr old female and I haven't had that One True Love yet, but would like it with the right person.





Any suggestions on how to meet available single men in a big city?





Or are some people just destined to be single souls for the rest of her life?

Internet dating hasn't worked for. How else can I meet a partner?
ive been in 4 diffrent online relationships and it hasnt worked for me eitha and i have the same problem hunnie and i'm so sick of ppl online i'm just thinking of going into the city and finding a man at a club or sumthing....idk
Reply:Single - many will be. You're in a big city, so that gives you an advantage. Find the stuff you'd be interested in a man having (sports, religion) and go to those type of events. Ask friends or co-workers. Maybe you could find a nice single guy on yahoo answers, he could even respond to your question! ;)
Reply:Clubbing helps, hope I helped. I met her in a club.


There are so many people in the club you could get along with.
Reply:If you are finding internet dating is not working you could try 'Speed Dating'. Most large cities have organisations for it see this one in London - http://www.speeddater.co.uk/ . There is plenty more to be found on Google.





Perhaps with internet dating your are not approaching it from the right angle - In my opinion the best way to meet a partner on the internet is to use a dating site like http://www.plentyoffish.com/ or many others just use google. Then you find a profile and picture of the person you like and message them. If they like you when they see your profile they will message you back. You can then progress from the dating site messaging to yahoo messenger and then on to skype - http://www.skype.com/ later if your relationship with that person develops.
Reply:agree with the first person. love will find you so dont try so hard.
Reply:Don't go out and "look" for love, it will come to you.





If you "look" you'll only set yourself up for disappointment, this is true in EVERY place to meet singles.
Reply:You're only 26 so I don't think it is very fair for you to think you're destined to be with only yourself. Get more involved in hobbies or volunteering, if you only make friends well they have single friends also. This way you meet people based on common interests and good deeds rather than for partnering up.

zippers

What do you think the internet dating for single parents?

There’s little doubt that Internet dating is increasingly popular among single parents. I think it’s for obvious reasons: Single parents have less free time to get involved in traditional dating rituals, less patience for the “dating game,” and, since they’ve likely been “burned” in some relationship capacity, they like being able to surf profiles to be more selective about who they express interest in. With kids in the picture, being selective is particularly appealing.


I'm a single mom and I don’t know too many single parents who haven’t delved into it in some capacity. I do know some who have met mates through groups like Singleparentloving.com, preferring the face-to-face encounters that offers.


My question is what do you think the internet dating for single parents?

What do you think the internet dating for single parents?
It's a waste of time and effort.


Internet dating/ age?

if u started talking to someone of the internet would you consider 18 (female) and 22 (male) suitable.


Wat are your views on interntet dating?


r there any sucess stories u have?


is it frown upon?


any views appriecated xx

Internet dating/ age?
I would be very careful of internet dating. I did meet someone on the internet and I am currently dating them, so far it has been a success and I have nothing but positive experiences from it.


Just be aware that people can lie over the internet...they can be whoever they want to be. Be extremely careful, don't be shy to ask point blank questions...if the other person is genuine, then he should understand why you would have those concerns and be up for answering your questions or providing proof (within reason).


If you met someone from the internet, I would keep it strictly in public for the first few outings.


18/22 is not a bad age difference. Sounds suitable to me...however...I would only date casually at that age, and only consider more serious relationships around the age of 25...it seems that around 25, you know what you want better, and who you are as a person better...I learned that the hard way.
Reply:yes, that will be ok if you are 18+.. internet dating is unexceptionable and wonderful.i found my prince through internet.. the only thing I wanna say is that choosing a good dating service is very important. better not choose free dating sites.. free dating sites are low quality.. quality dating sites are not free.. believe or not..100% true..btw, I'm a goth but my bf isn't we met on gothicsoulmate.com this August..if you wanna try online dating as well, i will wish you good luck..


Internet dating dead?

Is Internet dating dead? Are there any site(s) that are still worth while? Do people still actually MEET this way?

Internet dating dead?
Internet dating should be a fun way of getting together with someone. The key is to be brutally honest on the profile and trust you instinct when you are meeting potential dates. Some are BS, mut most want what you want...to meet some one fun and honest to go out with.
Reply:No, its is probably better just going to bars and picking up skanks there! Internet dating is way too difficult.
Reply:match.com don't you watch the commercials
Reply:Internet dating is for the desparate or lonely housewives.
Reply:no....................dont do it that way.....meet some one by face 2 face
Reply:My problem with Internet dating is that all the women write that they are so happy %26amp; enjoy life so much etc. If they are so darn happy why then are they looking for someone on the internet.? Stop lieing to you're self ladies.
Reply:Dont bother with internet dating, its a waste of time.
Reply:Oh yes, many many people meet each other


this way. Harder to tell how many actually


end up liking each other, but no, Internet


dating is far from dead. The numbers are


still growing.
Reply:Internet Dating Is Not Dead. I internet date, or did. I met some very interesting men, and some amazin friends. But I did meet someone special. It gave me alot of heart ache, sleeplessness, and tears of joy. I used Yahoo Personals. The other sites just do not give you the free communication option like Yahoo personals does. I did pay for a subscription, and it was fairly cheap. I recomend trying it out. I did it on a dare, and look where is led me. Take a chance. Besides my brother found his wife through internet dating.





PS: You have to be willing to meet people face to face.
Reply:Hello there!


I believe you can find love anywhere but do not rush and always stay open. Let me tell you why. About 3 and a half years ago I set an account with yahoo personals. I had only one personal rule no guys under 27 and got a few responses. One day out of the blue this guy (now my boyfriend) sent me an e-mail saying he was unable to IM me and I checked, sure enough I blocked him because he is 2 years younger than me. He was so nice and simple that I decided to give him a chance.


We've been together for over 3 years and living together for 1 year, we get along great and I believe we are expecting a baby.


So, my suggestion, take it easy, leave the door open to lots of friends and who knows, maybe you'll meet your future partner :)


Good luck!
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Reply:You can meet people on the Internet -- 99% of the time they aren't who they say they are though. You think you're chatting with Angelina Jolie and you meet face-to-face with Rosie O'Donnell.
Reply:Why everyone want to do internet dating, its so sillly. I think the best to meet in people than meet online. Some people are still do it, some don't.
Reply:YEP, U NEED TO SEARCH FOR IT. AMERICANSINGLES.COM %26amp; EHARMONEY.COM
Reply:well sometimes it is very hard to meet someone in this world. i have done internet dating. truth is, it is not easy. it is not that ppl lie but make sure that if u met someone online that u like, that both of u meet for real within max one month.dont drag it any further.


Internet Dating, when to take the profile down and how to broach the subject????

So I've met a guy through internet dating. We've been seeing each other for about 5 weeks, talking or texting every day. We get along great, he's my type and I can see myself seeing him for a while, though I'm not sure he is long term material. He is definately interested in me, he is extremely complimentary to me and a complete gentleman. Our friendship has progressed this last week and we did the deed. This in itself doesn't bother me as this is how long I would wait in a 'normal' relationship (please don't tell me to wait till marriage, I'm a big girl!!!). The issue that confuses is me is that I have taken down my profile (admittedly this was about 3 weeks ago, which he knows about), yet he hasn't taken his down and i know he has had activity on there, he bought up the subject and said he can't take it down until he has used his 'stamps'.:


Do I have a right to ask him what his intentions are in this relationship?


Can I ask him to take his profile down?


Opinions anyone?????

Internet Dating, when to take the profile down and how to broach the subject????
Yes you should ask him what his intentions are toward you and if he wants an exclusive relationship with you. If so then you have every right to ask him to take it down. Good luck.

shoe zippers

Internet dating Any suggestions?

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Internet dating horror stories?

Anyone care to relate some internet dating horror stories they experienced? A prize of "best answer" will go to the best story!

Internet dating horror stories?
I met this guy via (dating Site). He asked me to meet him at work, and then to go out (after months of talking). I had seen his picture and he looked cute. He wasnt smiling in the picture. He owned a gun shop. I go to his shop and he said he had to get something out of his house first,( he told me he leaved nearby) which was behind a curtain. It was a room with a bed in it and a kitchen the size of a utility closet, not to mention, he didnt tell me he had kids (3) and one of them was by a 16 year old. They were all living in this liittle room. He was in his mid 40's. Then he smiled with green mold on his teeth and I almost puked. Well, after that I got out of there so fast i left tire marks. never ever again. EVER
Reply:I don't know if this counts. But there is a hugh amount of deception and misrepresentation on the net. Starting with married men that want sex, and pictures that are not true. The internet is not by any means a way to have a relationship with any one. You can chat and offer opinions and what not. Dating in particular are grossly misrepresented. I think some sites for dating are now doing their own background checks. It is a forum for people to "spin" their fantasies. They are in the comfort of their own homes with anonymity reaching.
Reply:Well a while back when my friend and I were 10 she started chatting with guys and she would say she was 21 and that she was a stripper and single. I was totally against what she was doing. Well one day she was about to ask to meet this one guy somewhere and I refused to let this go any further! I told and even though she got in major trouble I think I actually saved her life. Besides that guy she talked about seemed suspicious
Reply:I have heard from people about men turning out to be married.





My last GF was someone I met from the net, and we lasted for a year. We are still good friends.
Reply:NOT REALLY...
Reply:I lost my virginity to a guy I met online. Little did I know, he was only out for that one thing. We were talking about Fred Durst and I told him how hot I thought he was (back in the day), and he asked me if I'd do him and I said no cause he'd probably been with ten million girls. That was when he said, "Well, my number is not exactly a low one either." What?! But it was ok cause I was probably only out for the same thing. Young and dumb. And horny.





After that, I met a guy that I dated for maybe five months. The only reason it didn't work out is because we lived 2 hours apart.





You just gotta be smart about who you're talking to. Get to know them. There are little things that you can pick up on to know if you should meet someone in person or just keep it strictly chatting.
Reply:no but i have heard of a girl who got a predator and she died...
Reply:You need to date people you can see . I feel this is very danger to fall in love with a person online, unless he are she is a movie star's and you both have cam. people act nice until you meet them be care ful you have one life use good old fashion common sent and stay a live as long as you can one mistake and then it's all over that mean you let your *** get you kill.
Reply:One girl I met had a pic that must have been a few years old because when we met she had another 75 lbs on top of what was in the picture.
Reply:what is the prize cuz i'm sure i can win if i share my story lol
Reply:not all meetings are horror stories, i met a wonderful man and hopefully we will always remain friends.
Reply:i luv u
Reply:Well, I was on myspace and this guy wrote me saying he went to Leon and he was kind of cute so I wrote him back. We wrote back and forth for a while till we finally decided to meet. Me and my girls went to the mall to meet him cuz I didn't want to be by myself and when I saw who he was, I walked up to him and kicked him.





It was my ex-boyfriend and he was so damn ugly!!! He had nappy behind dreads and he was dark as hell!!!!! He was missing one of his front teeth cause some boys jumped him and he was wearing some of the most baggy, nasty, loose jeans I had ever seen.





If that didn't ruin my day!!!
Reply:I have some words of advice, DON'T FALL FOR THE SEXY VOICE!! When I was a little younger I met a nice young lady on the net. We escalated to phone calls and I was blown away by her voice. We had exchanged pics but hers was only a head shot and she was not that bad looking. Well we decided to meet. :) We met half way between our neighboring towns and I took my brother along for the ride. So I really didn't know what to expect. So I'm in the designated waiting place and this girl starts to walk towards my car. I whisper through my teeth to my brother, " Is that her?", and he whispers back, "I think so!" To make a long story short, this girl like 6'2, at least 220 is headed my way starring directly at me. :( The head shot did her no justice, but it was too late to duck out. So I wound up going to the movies with her and to the hotel!! LOL!! :)
Reply:I met a girl in an online chat room, and we got along and we started to "Internet date" we talked all the time on the phone and in the chat room. I wracked up huge phone bills calling her, even paid for her cable bill and telephone bill. And transfered one month rent to help her out.





But another person who liked her started to send her messages that I had ulterior motives and and she just took the money and run. Then spread lies about me to everyone else in the chat room, and generally turned a bunch of real life friends against me.





I'm sure there is worse but thats mine.


Internet Dating and Thick Chicks?

Where does a thick, but not huge, girl go? I'm too big for guys that like thin girls, but apparently not big enough to get any interest on sights for BBWs. Otherwise, I'm decent looking, educated, employed, responsible and think I have a lot going for me. (Of course I'd rather avoid the whole internet dating thing, but I just moved to a new state and work from home, so opportunities are limited!) Any ideas?

Internet Dating and Thick Chicks?
There is always a special someone for every one, sometimes it takes a lot of time and patience to find. You can try joining community groups, a bowling league, and even dating sites. Try www.cupidpost.com, it is completly free to use.
Reply:Mingle @ the local bar!
Reply:personally, the thin old world models don't do anything for me, I like the full figured myself.


have no suggestions where to meet folks, I would guess somewhere that you would have a mutual interest.


good luck
Reply:PLEASE DON'T SAY "THICK." THE WORD IS FAT!
Reply:If you don't dislike old guys write a hint in LANGUAGES
Reply:you are a beautiful women..you are perfect.. tell those guys to jump into the lake. email me at c9mrsh@aol.com only if you need or want a real friend....who accepts you as you are in every way?
Reply:i know one thing that doesn't work - my space. absolutely useless site. otherwise try talk to people before sending the picture. if u talk for several days and they find your personality attractive they won't care what weight u have. and omit those who ask for picutre right away. they re no good anyway - usually these men have nothing to say cos they re dumb, so they ask for your picture and then they have smth to talk - to discuss how u look. useless.
Reply:Go to Myspace, there is a great mix of people on there, and just put it out there, don't pretend to be little, I am sure you know men like all different types from itty bitty to BBW!
Reply:Try Craigslist. It's free, you can post a picture if you want, and you can be more specific about how you are and what you want. I also moved recently and have gotten some great dates from the site.





www.craigslist.org
Reply:If you need a friend nbr660@juno.com
Reply:go to the gym
Reply:You seem old, too old.


Internet dating? 18+ only please?

Okay I am wondering who out there (men or women) have had success with internet dating (any website) I personally have had only moderate success. I basically found that woman online can be placed into three main groups: 1)unattractive and/or large 2) crazy/emotional problems or 3) love/crave attention from men. No offense meant to anyone.

Internet dating? 18+ only please?
I, like you, have had moderate success. from one date, to a year long relationship. I have recently given up, though. Each guy had his own idiosyncrasies, and while I became more adept at weeding through the profiles and each guy was a step up from the last, the time and energy spent on the computer just got to be too much. I have resigned myself to not actively looking for someone, but put my energies into my home, my work, my children, and hope to eventually meet someone as I go through my day to day activities.
Reply:Try using pettyoffish.com It is free and I have been using it for 6 months (IT'S GREAT)
Reply:Ha ha, yeah, no offense. And I've found men online fall into 4 categories: 1) ignorant 2) married to their job 3) omitting the fact he has a girlfriend and 4) my husband. I guess I had moderate success with online dating. I briefly dated one of each of the first 3 types (regular guys with their own human faults, but no psychos) but I found a real winner in number 4. We've been together 4 years, married for the past 2, and I never imagined I could be so well matched with someone!





I'd say give it another chance to find a normal chick. They're out there.

shoe uppers

Internet dating - Question for the guys only?

Do you consider checking internet dating site as cheating while in a stable and exclusive relationship? Discuss

Internet dating - Question for the guys only?
No, it is not cheating. My god who thinks like that? If I was ever accused of cheating for some other act than actual physical intimacy I would run, not walk, as far from that person as I could. How insecure is that person. This is the problem with stable, exclusive relationships each partner assumes that you can't even look at another person or Internet dating site or porn without getting ready to cheat. I think if looking at dating sites is entertaining and harmless then no big deal. Maybe the two of them can look at it together and turn it into a positive rather than a negative.
Reply:Yes and No.





It's not cheating - but it looks as though you plan on cheating in the future.





which makes you a naughty naughty lil she-wench
Reply:I'd say it's worse than checking out other women while walking down th estreet or flirting while at a party. But better than actually going on a date.
Reply:I sometimes look just to waste time, I'm happily married.
Reply:i am sorry i am answring ur questiong...but i would not consider is as cheating but i would think other person is looking around and what is the reason?and some ppl just do it to kill sometime.
Reply:yes love is possible even thru here..it is cheating....if he has you he shouldnt need the net
Reply:as long as you look but dont touch
Reply:yes its cheating
Reply:no if you don't meet in person i would say it's not cheating
Reply:its just a time wasting
Reply:Cheating is a bit harsh. It's not being true... Big difference between that and having sex with someone else though.


Poll about internet dating?Is it ok to meet your future partner online,given there are some really good?

quality sites online nowadays dedicated to marriage etc.


As traditionally i would meet someone in real life,but it seems more and more people are joining dating sites,so the stigma of internet dating may be vanishing,what do u think?


People generally use the sites if they are shy,workaholics,just a different dating alternative which is more convienent from home.

Poll about internet dating?Is it ok to meet your future partner online,given there are some really good?
I used to be against it myself. I thought it wasn't a natural way of meeting someone. I got bored with my single life one day and decided to give it a try. I met my boyfriend 6 months ago on Yahoo personals. We are perfect for each other :)
Reply:I met my current boyfriend online, though not through a dating website. For this type of situation, I really think of it as no different than, say, pen pals, for past generations. Of course you see a lot of hype in the media about the dangers of meeting people online, as they could be murders, rapists, etc, but so could that cute girl you pick up at the bar.





As far as dating websites go, the taboo is rapidly dissapearing, mostly due to effectiveness shown on tv/ internet commercials. As being of a social race, most of us do need affection, and when we are deprived of it we seek it out though many means possible. Also, because there are so many different e-dating sites, there seems to be a certain type of site for every person.





One of the biggest advantages of internet dating sites is for homosexuals. Often times it is difficult for a single gay to spot other gays just walking down the street, especially those too shy to attent gay/lesbian bars. All GLBT dating websites can help aid those who need it meet people of their same orientation without the akward, "I was just wondering... Are you gay?" question to a prospective partner.
Reply:I think online dating is really good. Given that I'm a single mom with 2 jobs and have school, I did not have time to go out and meet someone. I met a great guy on singles and we have been seeing each other for a while now and within the next month we are moving in together. It is convienent for people that have alot going on or for someone who lives in a small town that does not have alot of options for meeting people.
Reply:They also use those sites because of the certain amount of secrecy it gives them. If you have one, call a dating service in your town and arrange an interview. I don't trust internet dating. Too risky.
Reply:Ofcourse it's ok!
Reply:Of course its okay.





You should be too happy with meeting them to care what others think about how you first "met" :)
Reply:I have met two boyfriends online - one relationship lasted a year but did not work out long-term; the other, well, this month will be the sixth anniversary of when we met. So naturally _I_ think internet dating works out ok. So does my brother, who met his wife online, and my best friend, who met her husband online. I met my guy in a chat room for a tv show we both are fans of, my friend met her husband on Match.com. Using a dating site has its advantages, but there are also advantages to meeting all kinds of people online for discussion of mutual interests, making lots of friends, and then having a friendship spark into romance. n That is a tried and true strategy for online dating, as well as not-online dating.
Reply:I think it's OK. I have a friend who has got a pretty ladyf rom a dating site called millionairecupid.com last DEC. She is really a great lady. So I'm also trying to search my princess online.
Reply:And why would it not be "ok"?

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Does internet dating predipose people to be more far too fussy at times, than if that option wasn't available?

It is so easy to press the delete button, and be far more judgemental on the internet than in real life. For those of you that do internet dating, has there been a time in which you think you deleted / ignored / blocked someone prematurely, (and then regretted it). Has that been done to you too, and that you've felt youve been judged prematurely?

Does internet dating predipose people to be more far too fussy at times, than if that option wasn't available?
The internet will do that to you. Even with chatting on IM. It's because there's no tone or sound so what you conclude is how you read. I'm sure when people use the internet for anything, there are always judgemental. Unless ofcourse you want to stay there and write to every profile you open....lol. I didn't think so! If I come to delete someone, I never regret it because for me to do that, it means I have made up my mind.


Tried speed dating, clubs, bars, internet dating, but I can't get a girl! What am I doing wrong?

This may sound sad to you, but as a 27 year old male, I've only had one relationship. I've gone on various dates since, I've tried speed dating, clubs, bars and internet dating, but I just can't seem to meet girls!





For example, I thought going to nightclubs would be great, I mean so many girls dress up and look amazing. Yet when I'm in them, the girls are acting stuck up. They don't wanna dance with any men. In fact they either stand looking at the dancefloor or wine up against their friends. I look around and see men looking confused with their drink in their hand!





What's up with that? Having a dance with a man doesn't mean they have to give him their phone number or go home with him that night!





Other times I've seen attractive girls on the street on their way to work or at work in shops, but it's near impossible to chat to them as they're busy.





My friends to help me out as they are too busy looking out for themselves. In fact, most are in long-term relationships with kids.

Tried speed dating, clubs, bars, internet dating, but I can't get a girl! What am I doing wrong?
If you go to a dance club that plays hip music, chances are the girls won't dance with you, and not just you but most guys, because this type of music is not very good for dancing with somebody. Girls that like to dance, will dance alone or with their girlfriends. No one likes their space invaded and being their chest rubbed against. I personally can't stand when someone asks me to dance. It sounds so bad, "would you like to dance?" If I like to dance, I will dance alone, or I am already dancing alone. Get the idea? The best approach is to ask a girl if she wants a drink. Even if it's just club soda, no one will turn down a free drink. Once you get her a drink, she will feel that she has to at least have a small talk with you. It always works for guys that hit on me. Also, if a guy starts hitting on me, but doesn't offer me a drink, I will be offended.





As far as picking up on girls at public places such as a girl walking on the street on the way to work, it is not a good idea especially if she is running late for work. It is really annoying and defeats its purpose. But there are many places that are actually good for meeting people, such as a caffee during lunch break, when people are more relaxed, or a starbucks. Funny thing, I was sitting at a starbucks one day checking out a dating site and a guy came up to me and said "I noticed you were looking at an internet dating site. Are you looking to meet a guy?"
Reply:Clubs are hard to meet girls in (I think). That whole Pink song You and Your Hand? Yeah....girls go to clubs to dance and flaunt what they got and try to get free drinks. You're probably not going to meet your soul mate there. I would go to clubs with my friends and I'd dance with guys, but my friends would turn their backs on any guys trying to dance with them, with a "get the f*** off me" look on their faces. I don't know why, but that's how girls are in clubs.





Anyway....if you see a cute girl working or on her way to work, give it a shot and ask her out! It takes balls, but what the hell? The worst she can do is smile and say, "No thanks", and you'll make her day either way. That's how I met my husband! He walked up to me while I was working in cosmetics at the mall (during Christmas, even) and asked me out. You never know how you'll meet her! :) Keep looking and don't give up.
Reply:You dont meet life partners in nightclubs, well very rarely anyway, you need to join a club of some sort, or maybe a evening course in something, a common interest is usually the first thing that happens in a relationship, just relax a bit, get on with your life and let things happen, rather than try to control everything, it will happen, but probably not in a nightclub or bar!
Reply:Trying too hard. That's all, you sound desperate and that will show. It's the biggest turn off.
Reply:Shave your hair, book a long weekend in a garrison town hotel (cheap) and pretend you're in the army.





Garrison girls love a solider.





Failing that weird bit of advice, just stop looking.





All will be well soon.





Good luck.
Reply:Women practice dismissal, fear, and preoccupation. Men need an opening line, small talk, and to close with getting a telephone number or a date. The number one dating advice for women is "play hard to get".





Obese blobs, (that are 50% of the population), have immature hysteria that causes delirium in good looking women. The environments in this society are .1% good looking women.





There are 21 organizations spying on the population with plain clothes agents. No one has ever seen the start of a relationship.
Reply:you are trying too hard. take up some healthy activity and meet people who have things in common with you. then you'l have something to talk about. when people go to clubs and bars they are out for the pose and can't really hear what you are saying. the internet is full of fantasists and liars..you want something real then do something that makes you really interesting..martial arts, sports, acting, dancing lessons whatever you fancy but boozing women and those who stay home to chat online are giving you no chance.
Reply:I'll try helping as I am a girl - i seem to do this when guys come up to me at a bar but its usually cause they've tried a really cheasy line and they're just like everyother guy out there! try something different: go up to her and say something totaly unexpected...to get her off her guard...something to make her laugh! sending a drink usually works to- get a bartender to bring her a drink - try something different like a yagerbomb....also - girls in big groups don't usually go to bar to "pick up" they just want to have a girls night and usually get annoyed if guys try! they are also alot more confident in groups - try for girls that are with 1 or 2 friends :) eye contact usually works too....if she won;t take the time to look at your...she's probably not worth it :) hope this helps
Reply:Well one lesson i've learned: Don't talk about sexual fantasies involving necrophillia and axes during ur first date!!
Reply:Isn't there anyone at your workplace you find attractive? Or do you take any classes where you could meet someone with the same interests? You need to lose the desperate look and try to concentrate on making friends with a woman first - nightclubs and on the street are not ideal places to meet people. Why do you say the women you see in nightclubs are stuck up? Do you ever ask them to dance?
Reply:Maybe you are trying too hard, give it a break and stop going out at night, you won't find good girl material at bars or clubs, try daylight dating, go to cafes, and bookstores (good place to start a conversation) and try to look very relaxed if you act too desperate they will runaway from you.
Reply:just be yourself thats all girls want - it wil happen at the right tiem
Reply:sounds like ur trying too hard





where do u live lol
Reply:I found this free ebook you may want to read that gives lots of advice for first timers.





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Reply:Well when I was into the club scene in England a long time ago the man would always have a friend and that friend would hook up with my friend (she always got the good looking ones!) and the other would hook up with me and we would all go out on the first date together if their was one. You can't expect a girl not to care about the friend(s) she is out with.
Reply:Maybe Yahoo Answers is the answer... lol...I'm 21....
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Is internet dating still considered as geeky?

Many years ago I used to laugh at internet love.... but now after so many lonley nights (boo hoo - hope you all have your violins out!!) I too am considering the world of internet dating. Any views? I'm 28 and have a beautiful daughter but have stayed single since my pregnancy 8 years ago. (don't get me wrong - there have been a fair few 'special friends', but no boyfriend!)

Is internet dating still considered as geeky?
I don't think its geeky at all! i think its wonderful for busy adults who work all day and have children and don't have time to go out and socialize as much.. plus half the people who go on the dating sites marry each other!
Reply:no not really but there's a lot of weirdos on the internet...
Reply:I don't think it is geeky, but don't get your hopes up. So many people misrepresent themselves online, so please be careful. I have found, and heard from many people, the best way to meet someone is via friends. Of course, this doesn't always work. I wish you and your daughter the best!
Reply:not really. so many people are online these days.. that well.. people from everywhere.. so its not really "geeky"





go ahead ! see whos online!


its ok! dont be ashamed. millions of other people have done it..
Reply:Honestly, I don't know about geeky, but I consider it dangeros-but then again so is meeting men on the street as well. Oh heck, give it a try at least and see what happens.
Reply:hmmm....sorry but yes, i still think it's geeky. but that's just me. i know there are a lot more people doing internet dating, so it must be catching on. good luck!!!
Reply:Sometimes it works, but not when you go looking for it. I'm dating a guy for almost a year that I met off MySpace.
Reply:IT'S NOT GEEKY IT'S JUST PLAIN WRONG AND WEIRD
Reply:It's a lot better then going to the bars. Sorry the strings on my violin are broke.
Reply:No, it isn't geeky, I met my husband on the internet,we have been married for five years now. I am happier now than I was for the last 20 years. You do have to be carefull though, make sure when you meet someone you let him know that your friends know his name and where he lives and where you are meeting him. Cell phones are a life saver if you want to be saved from a bad meeting. I met 3 men in person before I met my husband. The first three were almost enough for me to quit on line dating but I am happy I didn't!
Reply:Its not the norm.
Reply:internet dating is stupid cause its pretty much just a dream
Reply:Of course you should but take plenty of time to get to know the person. No one should be lonely.
Reply:internet dating is just wrong


u should never do it


there is no point





u can't see each other
Reply:I don't believe it works. I spent a couple hundred dollar in dating sites and they never worked.
Reply:No. I dont think it is geeky at all. This is 2007. So many people are using it. Just be careful to who you talk to.
Reply:its not geeky
Reply:No not really Matters what site you are on, and is you say you like cats. Lol
Reply:nah it's not geeky i know plenty of people who met people on the net and started relationships that way.


E.g: My best friend did, %26amp;she's still in that relationship- for 2 almost 3 years now! Don't get me wrong, she's met him now and everything, but that's how it started.


%26amp;My mum too, she met some guy online, yeah he wasn't great but they stayed together happily for a few years!


Sometimes it's a good way to go! :] good luck
Reply:I would say internet dating has had a roller coaster ride. It's currently on the sliding down the hill phase. You can't substitute personal contact. To increase your odds of finding someone get involved in a sport, softball co-ed team maybe?? The more you are outside your home doing something the more chances you have to meet someone.
Reply:No! I think it's false, and you're best luck would be socializing in real life and meeting someone the natural way. Go out with some old friends or something, but ew, not the internet. You never know who you can be talking to. For all you know that picture of a cute 25 year old guy with gorgeous eyes could be just a complete fake and on the other end it could really be a 50 year old morbidly obese old man with no social life sitting at his computer all day... haha.


Don't do it!
Reply:Internet dating is dangerous. Unless you can check out a person's background (whether married or working or having a criminal record), it isn't something I would recommend.
Reply:No way! A significant amount of people find love through internet dating. Just be careful of any stalkers or scams.
Reply:Depend if you do something like True.com or plan on never meeting each other and falling in love over the net... thats weird
Reply:ITS THE GEEKYEST THING IN THE WORLD
Reply:No but be careful.
Reply:I never thought of it as geeky. It may not be the conventional way to meet people, but sometimes there are different circumstances.





When I was 18, I had just gone through a messy break up and found myself single and lonely for about 6 months. With a small child, I couldn't get out and meet people like I used to. Done right, Internet dating can work. Just don't get emotionally involved until you meet the person!


I signed up to a dating site and met a very nice man, we talked for a long time online and then we finally met.


5 years later, we are still together and have a child together and he is great with my son as well.





There are a lot of freaks out there, but there are also good guys looking for love too. My advice to you, is go for it! What have you got to lose?
Reply:maybe
Reply:No, but you meet more desperate people on-line than you perhaps meet in real life. But that shouldn't present itself to be a problem -- you can ignore people easier on-line than you can in real life. Just don't respond.


With internet dating, why do men act clingy after one date?

I'm finding the most psycho-ish guys on a paid internet dating site. They act as if they have a ring and a proposal ready for the first normal girl that responds.

With internet dating, why do men act clingy after one date?
they may have had prior real life dates that were similar to the one they were typing to, so they assimilate with a mental picture of them, thus they take it for granted the two are the same. just make it clear without a doubt, you are just interested and not infatuated yet! you like them, but not in love yet! guys are very vulnerable on-line because, they have given up on real life dating, be careful of fatal net attractions, these guys and some girls have very volatile emotions.
Reply:Not really i've been going to webdatedotcom and i have to say that the guys there are fantastic.. which is I think an understatement.. This site offers real profiles unlike all the others out there, so I'd say it depends on the site that you're going to. Report It

Reply:Because people as desperate as I am go on those sights. Some of us can't (very highly unlikely hood) get real dates, the old fashioned way.
Reply:Then stop looking for love on the internet.
Reply:Maybe you are the desperate one and they are just feeding off of your desperation.
Reply:EYE NO AINT THAT THE PITS
Reply:just instant message me and will talk screw those psycho guys get me a real one
Reply:Lol do they really ... i have id in some of these sites but just 4 fun i think if someone contacted me and said come on lets get married lol most proably i would just run..

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Valentine's Day and Internet 'dating' relationship(s) . . .?

I'm a 33-year-old, heterosexual male who is single:





I am a subscribed/paid membership, totaling to at l e a s t $400.00 per month, to the following Internet 'dating' sites to “ ‘find’/‘look’/‘seek’ for a ‘love’ mate and experience mutual ‘love’ with this person”:


1. Yahoo.com


2. Match.com


3. True.com


4. Eharmony.com


5. Chemistry.com


6. FriendFinder.com


7. Passion.com


8. BigChurch.com


9. MySpace.com





I place/post photo(s) of myself on my personal ad/profile for each of the websites listed above.








After I read the match’s personal ad/profile, I write and send a different email to each ‘match’ for initiating contact with peer-aged match (the woman or women).





However, I constantly experience that the ‘matched’ person(s)— the peer-aged women--; regardless of race/ethnicity, regardless of her photo or none on her personal ad/profile; that the peer-aged Women do selectively eliminate me-- they do n o t reply to any of my email(s) I sent-- as potentially being her either platonic friend or amorous/romantic partner based upon h e r preference selection of "Her Ideal Person's" traits, such as:


1) Height,


2) Race/ethnicity


3) 'Body type', and


4) Income/Occupation.








A. What is going on with the Online Internet 'Dating'/"Personal Ad" craze/fad or ‘thing’-- "Woman seeks Man"/"Man


seeks Woman"? ? ?





B. Where are the real Woman; n o t the Woman who are fake/'flakes' or n o t those that are " teasers of


written/worded Personal Ads/Profiles, photos, and such)” ? ? ?





C. What is this: “Popularity Contest”, “Flauntiest Teasing”, “Flirtatious but Fickleness/Finickiest” of these


heterosexual peer-aged people; both men and women; with the Internet/Online Dating Website trend or


‘craze’/‘fad’? ? ?





teasers of


written/worded Personal Ads/Profiles, photos, and such)” ? ? ?

Valentine's Day and Internet 'dating' relationship(s) . . .?
If you find your match right away they stand to lose your money your are spending,they want to keep you as long as they can.When your looking for love it's harder to find if you stop looking it will come.Sometimes these women and men are paid to work for them for you to think they company is working hard to find you someone,by not returning your e-mail keeps you longer and they make more money.Join activities at a church,camping,etc you will enjoy yourself and meet someone faster then these on-line promises they make to you and their pockets are getting full.


Thinking about internet dating is it worth a shot?

Im in my mid twenties and have never even been on a proper date or had a relationship. I have fancied guys in the past. But have had responses like 'I would never fancy you, I would never go out with you'. Tends to knock your confidence after that sort of statement! I don't think im unattractive and I have been told im cute etc quite a few times. Anyway some of my friends have met boyfriends over the internet and are very happy however my male friends think Its sad (or at least I get that impression). One of them joked that im so picky I only fancy about 1% of the male population! I live in a village and its quite tough meeting people, hence the reason alot of my friends have tried internet dating, I go clubbing but am not a big fan of meeting guys in clubs. I also find I don't generally fancy someone until I know them quite well as personality is quite important to me however I also need to be physically attracted to someone as well. so looks are important as well.

Thinking about internet dating is it worth a shot?
Hey it's worth a try! I met my spouse on yahoo personals but it took me several years of hard lessons to find the right one. Just keep a very open mind and exspect nothing in particular from a date, if you go out with someone and you don't hit off delete him or her and get them out of your life quick, and go onto to the next date dinner is always good or lunch never give out to much info so that if it dont work you can be done with it. always meet in a public place don't pick them up and don't let them pick you up. Good Luck hope that makes some since to you lol
Reply:internet dating is great me and my ex meant online and i am trying to find more guys online! there r no guys in my town (that r hott) so i go online to find them! nothing wrong w/ it!
Reply:Yeah - go for it... I'm married now :-)
Reply:Anything has a risk factor,you know the risk factor involved in this,are you prepared to pay the price,very often an exciting,gives you a buzz male,is very unreliable regarding a relationship.You also have the disability of making at a distance judgements,very often wrong.YOU SOUND AS THOUGH YOU CANNOT STAND TO LOSE OR BE DISAPPOINTED.
Reply:Nasty guys saying that to you. Lucky escape for you. I dont think there is anything wrong with meeting people on the internet as long as you are careful. Good luck to you.
Reply:Give it a go! You can learn to sort the chaff from the wheat quite quickly on the net, without wasting too much time %26amp; effort!


You can get to know other people by exchanging e-mails, and photo's before deciding if you want to meet and take things further.


Give it a shot, what have you got to loose?
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Reply:Why not? Safer than being picked up in a club as long as you meet in a public place and take things slowly and do not believe everything you are told online.





Internet dating is what you make of it I would imagine. I have friends who have met via Internet and are now married.





Use a reputable site and do not pay a fortune and what do you have to lose?
Reply:give internet dating a shot the thing with that is you never know who u are talking to or if u can trust them or they may be married and acting single or could be way older than u or a minor at least in real life u see what u get but hey u may get lucky u never know unless u try good luck
Reply:Go fo it - at the end of the day what have you go to lose? I have just received a wedding invite from a couple who met online!





I met my other half on a dating site too and we have been together for ages and are very happy!
Reply:Try it but be very careful
Reply:Yep, met my husband initially on dating Direct and my friend has just married the guy she met on line.Before meeting my husband had some really great dates good fun
Reply:Yes go for it! I met my husband via the internet. We got to know about each other via email etc and eventually talked on the phone then we arranged a date........ We have been married now for 6 years and we are very happy. What have you got to lose? I suppose there are some tricky people out there but you have to kiss lots of frogs to find your prince!


Good luck xxx
Reply:i wouldnt do it love.its not worth the hassle.my wifes having an affair on line %26amp; its totally ruined our marriage of 14 yrs.there are people out there who just do it to ruin families.please make sure they are single %26amp; not a weirdo before you go into it :)
Reply:If physical attraction and getting to know someone is important to you before you fancy them, the internet is about the worst place to look for a mate. People constantly put themselves across as something they are not, physically and mentally and could set you up for some very big disappointments.


Why do you seem to think the only place to meet someone is in a club or on the internet? It really is no wonder you have never had a proper date or relationship. I suggest going to real places and meeting some real people in their own element - drunks and people hiding behind their keyboards are not necessarily real.


As much as some may say work is a bad place to find someone, it certainly beats the avenues you are persuing. Go to the places that you enjoy - if those are museums, library, bookshops, music shows or whatever.


Fate will lend a hand - you will eventually meet that right one in a place you least expect it!
Reply:I thought you were already crowned in tribes ....like a ritual... hummmmmm . Speak to your village chief for insight!! lol...lol...pickey girl........
Reply:I totally recommend it! I am dating a great guy that I met online. I think it is a great option to give yourself to meet new people. I've made some great friends in addition to my guy. It is a great way to screen out potential weirdos too. Good luck with it!
Reply:I prefer the smaller dating sites and the niche sites. I recommend trying





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Reply:I met my husband online... and at first I wouldn't even date him!! Just be safe, its like meeting people anywhere.
Reply:Well from me to you i would say go with your heart and always bring someone in the with you, just in case the person you meet is a nutcase. You will find that people find it very amusing to hurt people for fun. have fun dating you will find your soulmate.
Reply:im an older person trying to give you my best advice .


in the past i would have immediately said no! never! dont do it!


i do now think a littlle differently BUT BE CAREFUL


I have a couple of friends who both date via the internet, one of them quite successfully and she has a great social life but the other has had many problems and by that i mean meeting people who are not as nice as they seem


i would say dont just rely totally on the internet for getting to know people , there are plenty of clubs and courses where you can socialise


always meet in public places and not just for the first few dates. tell people where you are ,take a friend (reliable ) with you and also stick to any other known pieces of advice about dating
Reply:sure its worth a shot, so is going to the bar, so is meeting people at the supermarket its about what you feel comfortable with just have an openmind and you'll be ok oh yeah be yourself too that makes sure things actually last