Monday, May 4, 2009

Internet Dating.?

Can you really meet someone nice and genuine via the net.


is it worth while?


what are the pros and cons?


Have you experianced this?


what are some of internet dating sites.

Internet Dating.?
When I was 16 I meet a 19 year old guy in a yahoo chat room. He had a girlfriend at the time so we where just friends. (He told me right away he had a girlfriend so he was not trying to find someone else). He was my best online friend. We talked daily about everything. Mostly we talked about what we though made a relationship good. We sheared a LOT of the same views. Him and his girlfriend where having problems (they had an on again off again relationship). They broke up 6 months after I meet him. So I decided that I wanted to meet him in person. So I meet him at a ship and shore fest at the beach. We both brought a friend with us. We all spent the whole day at the beach. We went swimming had a water gun fight and just hung out. That night we watched the firework show. Thats when he kissed me, it was my first kiss (I know 16 and never been kissed .... lol)





He ended up going back home and we stilled talked. I was not ready to tell my mom about him (I was 16 she would of never let me date a 19 year old guy off the internet). So I ended up finding a boyfriend my age back home and eventually he went through 2 more girlfriends (he was looking for a commented relationship the girls just wanted to date). Finally about a year and a half after we meet he told me that he really liked me and that he really wanted us to date. But that he didn't want to hide it from my mom. So I could either tell her about us, or we would have to part ways. So I gave him my phone number and told him to call me. When he called I was going to ask my mom if he could come see me. I could not do it, so he got on the phone with my mom and talked to her for about an hour and asked her if we could meet. It was the sweetest thing a guys ever done for me. When I went up to see him he asked me if I would be his girlfriend (it was so middle school but so cute). I of course said yes, and we started dating. Now we lived 2 hours away and I didn't have a car. My mom would take me to his house and he would sometimes come see me. We saw each other about ever other weekend. We dated for about a year and a half and then broke up. Two months later we got back togeather after realising that the reason for our breakup was stupid and we missed eachother.





In 2004 he joined the Air Force and it scared the heck out of me. We made it for almost 3 years 2 hours away from each other. I did not want to be without him. The plan was, I was going to move to Mississippi where he had Tech School at and we would live off base. Why he was in tech school I wrote him a letter every day. After that he realized how much I cared about him and he knew how much he cared about me. And he said he has been thinking about marriage for a few months but wanted to wait until I was 21 but decided that he was going to do it when he came home from boot camp.





He asked me to marry him on Christmas Eve of 2004. We where married on December 30th, 2004. We moved to Mississippi together and now we live in Japan. Last year we went back home and had a big wedding. It was so much fun. We are now getting ready to celebrate our 3rd Anniversary. We have a great marriage, we are so happy. He is really the best thing thats ever happened to me.





I do think that the internet now is a little different then what it was back then. I was very smart about internet dating. When I got messages from older guys talking about how hot I was and asking privet questions I would put them on ignore. So as long as you pick out the losers and ignore them you can find good guys.





The best thing about meeting my husband Austin on the internet was that we really got to know each other. We use to talk on the phone and internet for hours. We really knew who the other person was. That was really the best part of it all.





Also, if all the guy talks about is sex. Chances are thats all he wants. Find someone who wants to really get to know who you are as a person.





(OMG, regardless of that the guy above me said, DO NOT USE "ADULT" SITES to find a boyfriend. Good people do not go to sites like that to make an add. There is a reason he is dating a girl across the world. She is prob some wh0re and all he wants is sex. Go to http://www.eharmony.com/ or something like that. Or just go into Chat rooms.
Reply:yes you can meet someone nice and genuine --- i did





it is worthwhile if you are committed to them.





the biggest con is distance she is half a world away and its a tad difficult getting everything together





pros are i would never have met her without the internet





depends on your age --- i found the so called adult sites to be the most interesting in general in terms of the personalities you meet and the conversations that we had --- ignore the hype that they are "sex" sites --- the most childish behaviour comes from those that believe the advertising --- the truth is most people are looking for someone long term ---- best wishes
Reply:I prefer the smaller dating sites and the niche sites. I recommend trying





http://www.hotwomenrichmen.com
Reply:I don't think its nice. I could not well keep in touch with almost all of the girls I have met via net.
Reply:Just remember the person on the other end is writing just what they think you want to hear. So, No it is not a good idea.
Reply:I met my husband online.





We started by talking via emails and instant messangers then moved to phone conversations. We talked A LOT about everything (literally). It was a little over 2 months before we met face to face and when we did it was at a well populated even that was well lit. We arrived in separate cars and left the same way. I made sure a good friend knew where I was and what I was doing. I even arranged for her to phone me at a specific time and would give her a code phrase/word if I was not okay and another one if I was.





I did it this way because I have never been into the bar scene and didnt really have time to go to other places where I would meet men.





Yes there are weird ones and even dangerous ones out there. I have met those as well... one even started exhibiting stalking tendancies. Trust your gut and keep yourself safe.
Reply:yes you can meet some nice people on the net, but as for classing it as internet dating I do not know if you could class it as that, I would class it as a a epal situation, unless you are communicating with somebody in your immediate area, then I guess the best thing would be to meet in person after you have found somebody in your area, but you want to try an epal if you haven't, as some have said there are a heap pf weirdo's out there, it will take you time to get to know and trust that person, some stay for a few emails some stay for hundreds some there is no sign of stopping communications, but you will only get out of any relationship the amount you are willing to put into it, do not rely on the other person, try to believe them, but in time you will find out if they are lieing, but after all it is only words, you can certainly get hurt in many ways, try it


good luck
Reply:nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo...





(sigh)





Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo...
Reply:Stay away from it. There are a lot of weirdos out there.
Reply:Yes, you can. You can meet someone off the streets and not have genuine or nice, even someone that your friend or family member hooked you up with.


I think it is worth it because love is every where, even the Internet.


Cons: fake pictures, name and age But this can happen meeting someone on the street.


Pros: your future husband, best friend, that 50/50 man and well in knowledge, But this is vice verse for the streets also.


-Yahoo personals


-eHarmony dating service


-Meetup.com


-Rich guy dating service.
Reply:Yes you can meet nice people. I have tried some dating sights, some of them have a lot of people pushing porn and such. It is how ever some thing that is just as prevalent in our society as lonelyness. Beware of lonely heart scams (people asking for money). I have tried match.com singlesnet.com and divorcepeoplemeet.com . Still thinking about yahoo personals though....... with the luck I have had I would be just giving them money.


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