So I've met a guy through internet dating. We've been seeing each other for about 5 weeks, talking or texting every day. We get along great, he's my type and I can see myself seeing him for a while, though I'm not sure he is long term material. He is definately interested in me, he is extremely complimentary to me and a complete gentleman. Our friendship has progressed this last week and we did the deed. This in itself doesn't bother me as this is how long I would wait in a 'normal' relationship (please don't tell me to wait till marriage, I'm a big girl!!!). The issue that confuses is me is that I have taken down my profile (admittedly this was about 3 weeks ago, which he knows about), yet he hasn't taken his down and i know he has had activity on there, he bought up the subject and said he can't take it down until he has used his 'stamps'.:
Do I have a right to ask him what his intentions are in this relationship?
Can I ask him to take his profile down?
Opinions anyone?????
Internet Dating Etiquette?
It's too soon sweetie. While you may like the guy a lot, you don't really know him very well. And he's obvioulsy still looking. I would not make a big stink about him keeping his profile up... and I definately wouldn't ask him what his 'intentions' are. You need to be more like him. Keep your options open, and date some other people (even if you don't want to) That way, you'll have a distraction or two on standby for those times when you feel a bit needy. Remember, he's not your boyfriend yet and its unfair of you to expect him to act like it.
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Reply:It seems to me that his act of not disabling his profile means that he is still open to dating others and still seeing or entertaining others. The question is: Are you wanting an open relationship or a committed (closed) relationship? You need to discuss this with him, openly and directly. (Actually, you should have discussed this with him before doing the deed, so you'd have an idea of what to expect.)
It doesn't seem like he is as committed to you as you are seemingly committed to him.
By the way, you can ask him to disable his profile, and he just may do it, but how do you know, for sure, that he does not have another one (or many others)? There are lots of online dating sites out there.
Good luck!
Reply:I am dating a man I met on the internet and yes you have the right to ask him where your relationship is going as I did my guy and he took his profile down as I took mine down.
Reply:you just mentioned you don't see him as a long term material, so what's the big deal, have your fun full knowing you're not going to keep him. maybe he sees you the same way.
Thursday, November 19, 2009
What's better? Internet dating or meeting people randomely?
I was thinking that internet dating is becoming way more prevalent. Everyone has a story about some sister's cousin's best friend who met someone online. But are the old methods of meeting someone at a party/bar/grocery-story better than internet dating?
What's better? Internet dating or meeting people randomely?
Yes! I finally get to answer this question! Internet dating is one of the coolest things invented by man! I am a pretty hot chick and because of that certain men don't approach me in 'real life'. the internet gave them the green light to talk and for us to meet. This increased my chances of meeting someone by 100% because I didn't even have to leave my house to meet a man! My objective was to actually meet someone and not just cyber chat, so responded to local men only responses ( I never initiated contact ). Long story short, I met a lot of nice guys, went out on a whole bunch of fun dates, met one jerk who's emails and telephone number I blocked and got rid of, had a couple of stale conversations, but never made a love connection. The difference i found was how lax i had been in my personal safety. For instance i was sure to meet my cyber dates in public places driving my own car. back in the day, I met someone at the mall, we talked on the phone, he picked me up at my house, and took me in his car to another state for dinner. Nothing bad happenned but my point is i wouldn't dream of doing that with someone i met on line. The same people on line are the same people walking down the street--least we forget we ourselves are on line!
Reply:I'm not sure about meeting people randomly because I've never done it. I've always stuck to meeting people from online, but I'm not on any dating sites. I used Myspace out of all sites. I used to talk to people all the time on Myspace and I've met.... 6 guys (I think) from there and I dated I think 2 or 3 of them. I think it's cool online because you get to know the person better and specially if they've never seen a picture of you and then they do, I mean it's like, you get to know the person by their personality and you judge them on that rather than their appearance.
I love it a lot but I am, once I start working and getting out a lot more when the weather gets better, going to start looking to meeting someone randomly in person.
♥ Christina
Reply:I prefer meeting someone in person first. Meeting online is too awkward, and most of the time I can't seem to put the face with the personality I thought they had.
What's better? Internet dating or meeting people randomely?
Yes! I finally get to answer this question! Internet dating is one of the coolest things invented by man! I am a pretty hot chick and because of that certain men don't approach me in 'real life'. the internet gave them the green light to talk and for us to meet. This increased my chances of meeting someone by 100% because I didn't even have to leave my house to meet a man! My objective was to actually meet someone and not just cyber chat, so responded to local men only responses ( I never initiated contact ). Long story short, I met a lot of nice guys, went out on a whole bunch of fun dates, met one jerk who's emails and telephone number I blocked and got rid of, had a couple of stale conversations, but never made a love connection. The difference i found was how lax i had been in my personal safety. For instance i was sure to meet my cyber dates in public places driving my own car. back in the day, I met someone at the mall, we talked on the phone, he picked me up at my house, and took me in his car to another state for dinner. Nothing bad happenned but my point is i wouldn't dream of doing that with someone i met on line. The same people on line are the same people walking down the street--least we forget we ourselves are on line!
Reply:I'm not sure about meeting people randomly because I've never done it. I've always stuck to meeting people from online, but I'm not on any dating sites. I used Myspace out of all sites. I used to talk to people all the time on Myspace and I've met.... 6 guys (I think) from there and I dated I think 2 or 3 of them. I think it's cool online because you get to know the person better and specially if they've never seen a picture of you and then they do, I mean it's like, you get to know the person by their personality and you judge them on that rather than their appearance.
I love it a lot but I am, once I start working and getting out a lot more when the weather gets better, going to start looking to meeting someone randomly in person.
♥ Christina
Reply:I prefer meeting someone in person first. Meeting online is too awkward, and most of the time I can't seem to put the face with the personality I thought they had.
Internet dating tip?
I've been internet dating for a bit trying to find the woman of my dreams. Can't seem to attract much attention from those that i'd want attention from. All my messages are polite, i'm good looking (so people tell me). The only thing i've left off my profile is anything that indicates my wealth. Have to put details of this on (in a round about way) or do you think this will attract the wrong type.
Internet dating tip?
yea definately leave wealth off!!! you don't want some gold digger after you, and find out that she is one after it's already too late. lol
My tip would be, try different sites, don't just stick to the same one(s). Check out myspace (I know, its a bit teenage, but there's actually a lot of older men and women on there!) Try chatting at different times of the day. Usually the nights are reserved for weirdos and freaks. lol (no offense people! lol) If the topic of relationship/dating doesn't seem to work, go to another topic, maybe music, or cars. Whatever you're into.
good luck!!!
;o)
Reply:i think it\'s ok
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Reply:Never put your heart in to it.
Reply:just because you have money doesnt make you a catch, so yes i dont think you will attract the wrong type!!
love doesnt care what or who the person is!
respect yourself and you will find your woman
good luck
Reply:If you're after a trophy girlfriend then yes you should. If you're after a soulmate then your wealth is irrelevant. Go figure.
Reply:lol,, (WINK WINK) R U LOADED BABE?
Reply:Obviously you are lame! no wonder you can't get attention. you don't even know how to date online and asking on yahoo answers!! get a life!
Reply:I wouldn't show any details of your wealth...It would either make you look smug...or attract the wrong type!
Reply:First of all, you are most likely NOT going to find the woman of your dreams on the internet. If she was that great, she wouldn't be looking for love on the internet. Second, if you are wealthy, and you put that, every "gold digger" in the country will be after you.LOL You don't want some woman who is interested in only your money, and if you do add your net worth to your profile, you will never know if they truly care about you, even if they do.
Reply:You can leave that information off, it really is not needed. Good luck
Reply:if you're rich it will attract the wrong type i would say...... leave it off dude!
Reply:i would not put anything about money online. A true love will love you rich or poor.
Reply:Yes...you don't want to attract a female b/c of your wealth dude. I'd also suggest that you not limit your dating options to the internet. Get out there and play!! It's actually easier to approach someone you actually live around, come in contact with through friends, school, activities, etc. Internet dating is a real challenge. good Luck
Reply:I met my partner on the internet, i can't say i took any notice of his wealth on his profile. I do believe there are a lot of people who would only be interested in the money side of your profile. So please be careful
Be patient and the right lady will come along.
Reply:probably......i wouldnt indicate my salary on a dating site its totally irrelevant to the person that you are
Reply:You want someone to like you for you, not your brand new 51 inch flat screen tv, penthouse flat, Porsche, gucci shoes, d and g suits etc... all that is crap...
Example.... I was out one evening with friends, when a young gentleman approached me and we struck up a conversation... he told me that he earnt a six figure salary etc... I said, I dont give a damn about your wealth... it is what is on the inside that counts, and you really don't need to brag about your wealth... It sounds sad and desperate.
Get a personality
If you really think that you are going to find your dream woman off an internet dating site...............welll... I think you are sadly and sorely wrong.... Yes I am single and am proud of it, and just because I am fat, ugly, over forty etc, doesnt make me deseperate! lol....
Dont rely on internet dating sites, it is all contrived bollox and you meet people that you would not meet in real life... get out there, join evening classes, take up a hobby, just get out and about etc... love will happen when it happens....
Good luck and please dont brag about your wealth it aint funny, it aint bit and it certainly aint clever...
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Internet dating tip?
yea definately leave wealth off!!! you don't want some gold digger after you, and find out that she is one after it's already too late. lol
My tip would be, try different sites, don't just stick to the same one(s). Check out myspace (I know, its a bit teenage, but there's actually a lot of older men and women on there!) Try chatting at different times of the day. Usually the nights are reserved for weirdos and freaks. lol (no offense people! lol) If the topic of relationship/dating doesn't seem to work, go to another topic, maybe music, or cars. Whatever you're into.
good luck!!!
;o)
Reply:i think it\'s ok
======================================...
If you are single and have the time, please visit my site:
http://www.**************/go3.php
Reply:Never put your heart in to it.
Reply:just because you have money doesnt make you a catch, so yes i dont think you will attract the wrong type!!
love doesnt care what or who the person is!
respect yourself and you will find your woman
good luck
Reply:If you're after a trophy girlfriend then yes you should. If you're after a soulmate then your wealth is irrelevant. Go figure.
Reply:lol,, (WINK WINK) R U LOADED BABE?
Reply:Obviously you are lame! no wonder you can't get attention. you don't even know how to date online and asking on yahoo answers!! get a life!
Reply:I wouldn't show any details of your wealth...It would either make you look smug...or attract the wrong type!
Reply:First of all, you are most likely NOT going to find the woman of your dreams on the internet. If she was that great, she wouldn't be looking for love on the internet. Second, if you are wealthy, and you put that, every "gold digger" in the country will be after you.LOL You don't want some woman who is interested in only your money, and if you do add your net worth to your profile, you will never know if they truly care about you, even if they do.
Reply:You can leave that information off, it really is not needed. Good luck
Reply:if you're rich it will attract the wrong type i would say...... leave it off dude!
Reply:i would not put anything about money online. A true love will love you rich or poor.
Reply:Yes...you don't want to attract a female b/c of your wealth dude. I'd also suggest that you not limit your dating options to the internet. Get out there and play!! It's actually easier to approach someone you actually live around, come in contact with through friends, school, activities, etc. Internet dating is a real challenge. good Luck
Reply:I met my partner on the internet, i can't say i took any notice of his wealth on his profile. I do believe there are a lot of people who would only be interested in the money side of your profile. So please be careful
Be patient and the right lady will come along.
Reply:probably......i wouldnt indicate my salary on a dating site its totally irrelevant to the person that you are
Reply:You want someone to like you for you, not your brand new 51 inch flat screen tv, penthouse flat, Porsche, gucci shoes, d and g suits etc... all that is crap...
Example.... I was out one evening with friends, when a young gentleman approached me and we struck up a conversation... he told me that he earnt a six figure salary etc... I said, I dont give a damn about your wealth... it is what is on the inside that counts, and you really don't need to brag about your wealth... It sounds sad and desperate.
Get a personality
If you really think that you are going to find your dream woman off an internet dating site...............welll... I think you are sadly and sorely wrong.... Yes I am single and am proud of it, and just because I am fat, ugly, over forty etc, doesnt make me deseperate! lol....
Dont rely on internet dating sites, it is all contrived bollox and you meet people that you would not meet in real life... get out there, join evening classes, take up a hobby, just get out and about etc... love will happen when it happens....
Good luck and please dont brag about your wealth it aint funny, it aint bit and it certainly aint clever...
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Internet dating scary!!?
If I use an internet dating site and I send a message to someone, can they find my IP address and come to my house?
Internet dating scary!!?
First of all I met my Wife on the Internet and I'm very much alive and happy.
Secondly, the only way to trace your ip address back to your physical address is through your ISP.
Someone would have to have access to the DHCP logs to know which account was assigned that ip address when and then cross check that with thier customer records to find out the address for the account.
The truth is they probably could do this with you first and last name or e-mail address just as easily so it's really not something to worry about.
Also keep in mind if you're using the dating site to send the measages and not email they probably won't be able to get your ip address anyway.
Reply:This is why I never give my exact street address when I sign up with a ISP. I usually give them my PO Box # %26amp; I have my phone listed as an anagram of my name. My late hubby's ex-wife took up a new hobby after his death, "stalking". She got ticked off, when she learned, he left her $2 in his will for services rendered while they were married.
If it were me I'd chat only with folks %26amp; leave it at that. For a serious relationship, I'd try to find a fellowship that participated in some of the same hobbies.
Reply:I don't know if they can or not. It can be very scary and you should be careful. I will say that I met my husband 11 years ago in windy city chat room, and as nervous as I was to meet him, it was the best thing I ever did. We have been very happily married for 9 1/2 years. Then 3 years ago, my mother, met a man through a dating site, and they have been dating since. So, it does work out for some people. Good luck and I hope it works out for you.
Reply:They can't get exactly to your house. They can find close to your city, but usually even the city is off on IP searches. It won't give them your home address.
My opinion - DATE REAL PEOPLE!!! :(
Reply:not if you use a proxy no.
Reply:i don't know, but DON'T DO IT!!! better safe than sorry!
Reply:I've used internet dating, and no they can't locate your address, But according to how old you are be careful if you intend meeting up with someone, arrange for you to be dropped off by your friend and get the car number, tell a friend who you are meeting and where you are going, phone at certain times to let them know your ok even if it means going to the loo todo so, and if you want out get them to pick you up, and don't go too far from home try and stay in a place where you know.
Reply:If he or she is techy enough SURE! I would just not do it, safer that way!
Reply:IP addresses do not supply that that level of tracking. At best they can find out what ISP your on (AOL or somthing) but not where you live. And i doubt that any dating site would send your IP to anyone.
Reply:No, they can't find your IP address and even if they could, is pretty damn hard to track an IP address to an specific physical address.
The most someone could find out, and that is the dating site, is who is your ISP (internet service provider)
So you are safe on that regards, just, don't give your personal information to anyone on the net.
Internet dating scary!!?
First of all I met my Wife on the Internet and I'm very much alive and happy.
Secondly, the only way to trace your ip address back to your physical address is through your ISP.
Someone would have to have access to the DHCP logs to know which account was assigned that ip address when and then cross check that with thier customer records to find out the address for the account.
The truth is they probably could do this with you first and last name or e-mail address just as easily so it's really not something to worry about.
Also keep in mind if you're using the dating site to send the measages and not email they probably won't be able to get your ip address anyway.
Reply:This is why I never give my exact street address when I sign up with a ISP. I usually give them my PO Box # %26amp; I have my phone listed as an anagram of my name. My late hubby's ex-wife took up a new hobby after his death, "stalking". She got ticked off, when she learned, he left her $2 in his will for services rendered while they were married.
If it were me I'd chat only with folks %26amp; leave it at that. For a serious relationship, I'd try to find a fellowship that participated in some of the same hobbies.
Reply:I don't know if they can or not. It can be very scary and you should be careful. I will say that I met my husband 11 years ago in windy city chat room, and as nervous as I was to meet him, it was the best thing I ever did. We have been very happily married for 9 1/2 years. Then 3 years ago, my mother, met a man through a dating site, and they have been dating since. So, it does work out for some people. Good luck and I hope it works out for you.
Reply:They can't get exactly to your house. They can find close to your city, but usually even the city is off on IP searches. It won't give them your home address.
My opinion - DATE REAL PEOPLE!!! :(
Reply:not if you use a proxy no.
Reply:i don't know, but DON'T DO IT!!! better safe than sorry!
Reply:I've used internet dating, and no they can't locate your address, But according to how old you are be careful if you intend meeting up with someone, arrange for you to be dropped off by your friend and get the car number, tell a friend who you are meeting and where you are going, phone at certain times to let them know your ok even if it means going to the loo todo so, and if you want out get them to pick you up, and don't go too far from home try and stay in a place where you know.
Reply:If he or she is techy enough SURE! I would just not do it, safer that way!
Reply:IP addresses do not supply that that level of tracking. At best they can find out what ISP your on (AOL or somthing) but not where you live. And i doubt that any dating site would send your IP to anyone.
Reply:No, they can't find your IP address and even if they could, is pretty damn hard to track an IP address to an specific physical address.
The most someone could find out, and that is the dating site, is who is your ISP (internet service provider)
So you are safe on that regards, just, don't give your personal information to anyone on the net.
Do you think internet dating is better than face to face meeting in your own area?
Since internet dating started, Idid think it was a good idea, but for some reason the internet seems to be a Cross country,or a state to state meeting ground. over 4 years on a few particular sites and in all that time never met anyone local. The people that write and call the most who have the deepest interest or who seem the most interesting are always in other states. While in NYC I have spoken to women in Sacramento, Seattle, Houston, Chicago, Atlanta, Ft Lauderdale, Phoenix, etc.. and have been up and down the east coast to other states (14 total) yet never met someone in the same city or county. I cannot just get up and go to California or Texas to meet and date these people. It would always be the strongest preference for someone near enough to be with often. I can't deal with these cross country matchups. Also in one hour on the net you can meet as many as 100 people so don't you think that makes it even more confusing when trying to decide who is the right person?
Do you think internet dating is better than face to face meeting in your own area?
Put in that you live in NY City. Not willing to travel.
Reply:I think you should try Myspace.com. It could narrow it to more local and people right in your area and it's more personal. Plus it's free and simple.
Do you think internet dating is better than face to face meeting in your own area?
Put in that you live in NY City. Not willing to travel.
Reply:I think you should try Myspace.com. It could narrow it to more local and people right in your area and it's more personal. Plus it's free and simple.
Internet Dating - where Does the magic go?
Why does internet dating frizzle as quick as it is established? Meet someone and the magic is just gone..The fantasy is gone for both I think. What now?
Internet Dating - where Does the magic go?
Because it is more fun to connect with people offline and look into their eyes and observe their behavior.
Reply:I've been doing long distance for 5 years. We met on the internet (we weren't looking. It was a game site).
It looks like you're looking for a thrill. The magic my husband and I have is still going strong.
Internet Dating - where Does the magic go?
Because it is more fun to connect with people offline and look into their eyes and observe their behavior.
Reply:I've been doing long distance for 5 years. We met on the internet (we weren't looking. It was a game site).
It looks like you're looking for a thrill. The magic my husband and I have is still going strong.
Internet Dating is not where it is at. Why is there so many scammers to ruin everything?
I am single and have been on three internet dating sites. Every contact has been a scammer. Asking for me to sign documents, money and ask me to marry them right away. I am losing faith that there are decent people out there.
Internet Dating is not where it is at. Why is there so many scammers to ruin everything?
your right. i have tried also. it's a real waste of time. i learned that right away.
Reply:I prefer the smaller dating sites and the niche sites. I recommend trying
http://www.hotwomenrichmen.com
Reply:I found the love of my life on the internet, but not a dating site... we met in a yahoo chatroom years ago, which made it that much better because we met under circumstances that showed we already had something in common... through talking for years and debating in the chatroom we became close and realized we had so much more in common... to me the dating sites can be a lot like dating tv shows in the "real" world... so many misses for ever hit... and there are decent people out there, maybe you just aren't looking in the right places
Reply:That is really unfortunate, but don't give up
wishing you the best!
polish
Internet Dating is not where it is at. Why is there so many scammers to ruin everything?
your right. i have tried also. it's a real waste of time. i learned that right away.
Reply:I prefer the smaller dating sites and the niche sites. I recommend trying
http://www.hotwomenrichmen.com
Reply:I found the love of my life on the internet, but not a dating site... we met in a yahoo chatroom years ago, which made it that much better because we met under circumstances that showed we already had something in common... through talking for years and debating in the chatroom we became close and realized we had so much more in common... to me the dating sites can be a lot like dating tv shows in the "real" world... so many misses for ever hit... and there are decent people out there, maybe you just aren't looking in the right places
Reply:That is really unfortunate, but don't give up
wishing you the best!
polish
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