Friday, April 16, 2010

Can anyone else relate to this same problem with internet dating?

I have been doing online dating for a couple of years now, with not much luck. It seems like a lot of the guys are just simply unattractive (not to be mean- but fat, nerdy, etc.), or they are the good-looking type but want Miss Perfect or they're serial daters (they want to see you and everyone else or the "you're good enough now til' I find someone better), or just completely have no time for you, or they live too far. I have met a few guys that were quite attractive, but two were married to their jobs, one lived too far, and I caught the other in bed with an ex. Does anyone else relate to this? I am quite an attractive woman with a good personality (so many people ask why I'm still single and it's really getting annoying) and would like a boyfriend, but that's impossible if I can't even get a date. I tried the internet, for where I live, it's a small town and not much selection for meeting people. Anyone have any luck with any dating sites, or know some different ones?

Can anyone else relate to this same problem with internet dating?
I met my girlfriend on the internet, but we didn't meet on a dating site. We met on a site we both had a common interest in, not looking for a significant other, just looking to talk to people with similar interests. Worked better than dating sites.
Reply:internet dating is the same as any other type of dating. you have to wade through a 1000 losers to find one good guy.





im 47 and live in conn., if your interested.
Reply:It seems like what you're looking for you won't find on the internet. First of all you want someone attractive which the internet rarely will provide simply because of how easy it to deceive others ie. through photo stealing, photo shop, or deceptive camera angles. Second of all you expect this person to have an excellent personality which is another thing the internet is terrible at displaying. It's hard to look into someone's personality when all your reading is text based on what they think others think of them. Which often times is either false or heavily exaggerated.





The internet is great for those that don't have the time, confidence, money, etc. to partake in the normal dating scene. But at the same time it's bad because the total anonymity of it allows people to be deceptive in order to trick others in the hopes that when this person meets them they'll just stick with it because they've invested so much time into it.





People may see you as coming off as shallow but it's really being honest. How many times have you gone to a dating site and skipped over someone's profile all together just because they weren't attractive, overweight, etc. Or saw someone's picture and instantly was prepared to message them without even reading their profile... I can tell you everyone does that.
Reply:Sugardaddy.com is a new one to me, ha ha! You could also try Craiglist. It's free, but limited. You can check it out right here:





http://sfbay.craigslist.org/m4w/








But yes, I relate to what you're talking about. Online dating can be very deceptive. I'm sure you've had some guys who give you pictures that weren't even them! And from what I can tell, women usually get co*k pics, which is really gross. Women don't want to see that, but since that's all guys think with, they figure women want to know I guess. Ha ha.





But if online dating fails you and real life dating doesn't hold up to par either, excuse my language, but f*ck! Where are we singles supposed to meet someone? Ha ha, geeez. It's hard.
Reply:hahahahaha... good looking guys online dating sites!!!! That's a good one! Whew... hear ya there sister! Yeah, btdt. Nothing but mullet wearing, dirty coveralls, reeking of budweiser.... bleh!





Let's see, I've tried eharmony, yahoo personals (the worst), datemypet.com (not too bad), match.com (creepy). Ya know, myspace hasn't been too bad... but I met a guy through a friend that is better than what I could find online or in a bar.





Hmmm, try a bookstore or grocery store! My friend met her husband in a grocery store.





Good luck!!!!
Reply:I have some (not a lot) of experience with internet dating. My theory is that most people who use internet are either:





-desperate for a relationship


-looking for fun





The attractive single guys with a serious attitude towards dating usually don't use internet services because they have no trouble finding girlfriends. Whereas, attractive single women are more common than attractive single men, and therefore sometimes resort to internet.
Reply:You pretty much weeded your options.


Try dating the people you know.
Reply:I'd leave the internet alone, and try prayer. :) No, seriously. I think God will deliver the person you were meant to be with if you have faith. It could be that your "perfect match" is... who knows? Married to someone else right now? Maybe he's out there but has issues to get through before he's ready for you? Sit tight. Don't be in such a hurry. It's better to be alone for a while than to rush into something and then wind up going through a divorce years later.


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