Why do people lie so much on internet dating sites?

I have tried internet dating and found that women will not show up for dates, dont look like their pictures, or say they will meet then never write back ( c'mon, it says right on there you are online, active in last 24 hours etc!!! ) Do they think they are fooling us guys ?? I think it is because they feel they are unaccoutable for their actions because to them its an image on a computer, not a real human they are lying to...I am afraid it is a reflection of how dishonest society has become....it is ok to lie..

Why do people lie so much on internet dating sites?
i agree with you, but ya know men do the same thing....i just quit t he dating sites, i have given up...i got tired of being lied too...my special favorite is when they post pictures that are like 20 years old...
Reply:There so much dishonesty on those dating sites because if people told the truth, they'd never get laid. Also some people are just teasers and love the attention that they're getting on-line, but wouldn't act on it in real life. And no it's not OK to lie, I'd rather tell the truth and face that punishment then lie and have to look at myself in the mirror knowing that I wasn't truthful. But it's taken me many years to learn that lesson.
Reply:People lie because they are insecure about themselves. They are afraid that if they present themselves as they really are, they won't get any hits at all. They might not show up for dates because they don't want you to find out that they've been lying about their age, appearance etc. Instead of getting pissed off about being stood up, you should just forget about em. No one wants to be in a friendship/relationship based on lies. I even bet you that the person or people who stood you up knew this and that's one of the reasons they didn't show. They felt guilty.
Reply:No that sucks but i dont really care about it girls on myspace allways tell me they wanna meet up and hang but guess how many out of like 10 i have met 0





they always promise things like that to me its kinda retarded cause there is nothing to lie for its not like i am going to arrest you or something and they say they wanna do it then dont





i am like what you think if you say no i will die it doesnt matter to me but i have seen this alot of times they are just talking crap most times i think thats why i take none of em serious and you should do the same until a girl proves other wise
Reply:They lie, both guys and girls, because they can. It is simply not a good idea to try to meet folks online. Occasionally someone has a great experience, but I am afraid those are few and far between. The most usual experience is what you have been through. Have fun chatting or whatever, but I wouldn't try to get serious.
Reply:" Do they think they are fooling us guys ??" yes, because girls have been hurt by "the wrong guys" so we all think that all guys are like that, usually its girls who have a step dad, or no dad or an irresponsible dad who do that, because like i said, we think all guys are like that. They're not though. it just takes some time for most girls to realize.





not to mention, alot of girls are self conscious of their personality because guys just like the sex, not them. so they shy away. usually, atleast this is what i know and see...
Reply:People lie all the time (online and in person).............what makes you think that a dating site is any different?





And it's not just women that lie on internet dating sites........I know that for a fact. The online site that I used.......I ran across SOOOO many guys that were complete jerks!


And do you guys think you are fooling us girls............that could be part of the reason that you are having the experience with women that you are.......because they've run across too many jerks online.





All I can tell you is to be yourself....be honest and up front. You have to be if you are trying to find a relationship from an internet dating site......


And it can happen.......I met my current boyfriend online.





Try checking out:


www.plentyoffish.com


it's a free dating site.......so you've got nothing to loose....





Sorry about your bad experiences........don't let them ruin the good ones that could be right around the corner.......
Reply:Simply because they are trying to attract the best partner possible. The stupid part is when the 2 meet up, everything is going to be found out.


If you want someone special tell the truth, you ll get caught out otherwise, the truth is easier to maintain, and the person Will respect you more for it.


Mike t.
Reply:people lie on those sites because they are on them! if you resort to the sites there is a problem, your either ugly, stupid, fat or occasionally the people are ok they just have no time or way to meet people but most of them have problems that they want to hide yet they dont want to be alone, doesnt make much sense? try meeting people somewhere else, at least you know who they are
Reply:Don't waste anymore of your time on these dating sites.





EVERYONE lies ! I've had very similar experiences with men.





They say one thing and do another. I've given up on those things... People are not always honest so you're better off finding someone on your own outside of Internet sites.





I'm sure there's a girl out there for you keep looking and stay socially active.
Reply:i don't know why they lie..


they just think perhaps its only internet thing and not serious..


or they just don't find the guy interesting..





but mostly some women are shy to show up coz they put an edited image on their profile..





ehehehe good luck in finding a true and honest online date..
Reply:Well I am guessing alotta people are scared to meet people from online or are afraid they are gonna get raped. Maybe they do an online profile for fun or cuz they are bored. But alotta ppl think its dangerous to meet from the internet.
Reply:maybe they are not confident about themself that's why they lie on the internt dating. I dont' like that too because it's very esay to hurt the other person. So dont' lie people.
Reply:Women aren't the only ones who lie. Men lie about their age, to get younger women. Men lie about their height. Men lie about their relationship status. I've also heard a lot of women complain that men post old pictures, or pictures with hats on, to hide their baldness.





I'm not sure what the problem is. Part of it may be purely attempts to be deceptive, but I think there could also be other factors involved.





True or not, society bases a lot of what it perceives as attractive on youth, thinness, wealth, and good looks, even though most of us don't fit that ideal. Now... what do you do when you're trying to attract someone when you know you're not ideally attractive? I've heard about 'no show' dates. I always wonder if that happens because the less than honest person is afraid their lies will come to light. Maybe they're hoping 'love' will spring during the written part of getting to know someone? Then they hope their 'little lies' will be forgiven.





I think people should state clearly what it is their looking for. Saying something like, "I don't mind dating someone who isn't thin." or "I prefer to date someone near my own age." would cut down on the desire of others to lie. The truth is, I see a lot of couple with one person who isn't model beautiful, or thin, but I doubt they admit they don't mind, when looking for a date.





Those points aside, I also think there's just a lot of plain old dishonestly on the internet. It warrants a lot of careful thought when attempting to meet anyone you find here. Then I consider how busy a lot of people are these days, I do believe internet dating can be a good idea. I just think people need to be careful, forget the bad experiences, and keep a hopeful outlook.