Help with internet dating ?!?

me and this guy met on an internet dating site. we've talked on there and IM for a month or two, and both of us keep saying how we want to meet up with each other. we both live in the same city. however, when he asked for my number, he never called me. we have talked since, almost everyday, and he keeps making comments about how he wants to meet me and take me places, but never follows up on them.. i think i kinda like this guy, but i don't wanna wait on him forever. but, i'm not a pushy sort of girl, so how can i get him to finally make a move or SOMETHING without it seeming like i'm forcing it. We've seen a bunch of pics of each other, and it's only a matter of time before we bump into each other when we're out and about the town (it's not a very big town) so should i ask him out, or just show up somewhere that i know he would be, and take the meeting from there? Thoughts on any other ideas? Thanks!

Help with internet dating ?!?
Internet dating-wise, I've had this happen a couple of times. This is a clear sign of him NOT being available. Whether it's that he is in fact married, has a girlfriend or just likes the attention of having someone who he talks to online, he is NOT available. If he were, you would've met. He's communicating a lot to you by his behavior. It's been a month or two since you started iming?? Yeah, he's playing games. Trust me. My advice to you would be to either one, let it go and don't respond to him anymore (I get the feeling you won't do that) or two, be up front and ask him what's up. Don't be surprised ,if you go the up front route, if he hems and haws as to why he hasn't called or made a move to meet you. You could tell him you want to talk live and if that's not going to happen, you need to say goodbye. It's not being pushy at all, it is normal if you're really open to dating and meeting people to actually take the steps to meet! At best, being up front might lead to you guys meeting but I doubt it will go in a direction you would want things to go in. He may disappear afterwards (not being online or emailing) or find a way to keep stringing you along. I have been there and learned my lesson. If you're wondering why a guy is not stepping forward after 1-2 months of "talking", it's a good chance he's running a game. Plus, "liking" someone or getting attached before meeting them is ripe territory for hurt feelings. Good luck to you.
Reply:Gah.


I met my fiance on the internet too. I live in upstate NY, he lives IN GERMANY. Within a month he had his plane tickets in his hand.





When are girls/women going to realise that when a guy's into them, he'll make the effort? If he doesn't, move on.
Reply:Do you want to end up on the front page of the local newspaper, with a news headline like. Woman searching for love found dead, police still searching for woman's head? Leave that **** alone.
Reply:ask him to meet you somwhere. its not like its out of nowhere if youve talked about it before
Reply:It could be he is not sure about meeting up in person or he might be in a relationship even though he has probably told you he is single. Ask him out and if he declines than give him some space.
Reply:He's probably married....................
Reply:it sounds like he's hiding something. But it may be just a small something.that he may be ashamed of. Yes go where he goes or ask him out.
Reply:u must be desperate.♥
Reply:This past year - I tried internet dating. I will say the guys that we went back and forth via IM for a few weeks. . . and after exchanging phone numbers - he didn't call or I didn't call - - - I found those connections need to be left alone. . . they won't amount to anything.





there is something keeping him from making the next step.





my only suggestion is that - ask him to meet you somewhere with no pressure like a coffee shop where either of you can skate out if it isn't working... don't do something like dinner if you haven't connected after all this time.
Reply:hey!don't talk to him for some days then when you talk tell him about your imaginary friend and then he will be jealous