Why am I not being successful on Internet dating?

I've been doing Internet dating now for about 3 mos. I'm by far not the most attractive man out there but still find myself unable to meet someone that I myself am attracted to. My pic is here: http://www.geocities.com/grcboy2/n557441...





This is the only pic I'm using right now but still send out messages only to see them deleted. I am not contacting the most attractive or popular women either. Most of them are just cute average women only to see them deleted or chat and then they don't come back. I have literally contacted I would say about 100 women and have got no responses. Why?

Why am I not being successful on Internet dating?
your an attractive man, but that photo makes you look a bit intense.





Maybe its what your saying to these women, like above when you say 'I'm not contacting the most attractive or popular women, just cute average',it sounds extremely arrogant, like what is it your looking for exactly..Miss World?





I have no experience of Internet dating so I'm not familiar with the whole process, but most women want someone to accept them for who and what they are, you seem to be extremely picky. Who's to say when you get the ideal looking person you'll even like her as a woman?





But good luck with your search
Reply:You look sweet and nice. Try meeting new people, not just straight away date them but just meet and make friends, get to know them, and if there is a chemistry, it would work.





Good luck
Reply:No offense, but that picture makes you look like a prison inmate. With that kind of close up picture, the eye gaze is just too scarily intense.





Invest in getting better pictures made, and you might try smiling in your picture. People are attracted to smiles.
Reply:Hi... well, i have met a few people on the internet, and my last encounter was a total disaster... met a guy who lied about himself (everything!!!). He said he sent his daughter to college, was buying a new house, that he was financially stable, and lots of other things.. my first reaction should have stayed with me... why was he bragging? It was because he never paid a dime for his daughter's college education, couldn't even make his OWN house payments let alone buy a new house, didn't even know what sort of things his daughter did as a child (such as dance lessons, music lessons, etc).





I'm not a gold digger by any means, and if he'd have said "i'm struggling financially" i could have made the choice to take it or leave it!





He also claimed to be family oriented? Nonetheless he didn't know anything about his own daughter and i watched him treat his mother terribly more than once.





I'm sure there are a lot of nice people on line, but finding them is the issue.





I suppose that it doesn't matter where we meet someone, it takes time to get to know them and figure out whether they are sincere and honest or full of crap!!!





Have you ever thought of joining a gym or taking karate (or some other) lessons? Some communities offer singles groups, and these people do things together, like arrange social events such as going sight seeing or to a casino, dances, and other things. If you put yourself out there and mingle socially, it might be easier to meet others?





I know it's a jungle out there... i give UP!!!





Also, maybe you could find a hobby or two to keep you occupied in your spare time? Being content with your own company is also important.





I wish you all the best, hope you get some good answers here.


take care!!
Reply:maybe you are trying to hard. Spice up your profile a bit . And don't give to much info of yourself at first . It's like falling into the house with the door already open. Keep it interresting . Women that do not answer are might not interrested. Let them come to you .


keep your eyes open when you walk outside whre you live ,maybe you will find a nice girl out there . Just keep it cool .





Good Luck
Reply:Try the mail order bride thing.... if you are able to take care of her she may just have you. My friend did that he works at a hot dog stand making very small money and he found a beautiful wife who is virtuous and humble and loves him, appreciates him, honors him and treats him like he's the ****... I'm doing it myself.


I've been very successful with internet dating and I didn't even post a profile picture of myself. I've already met two guys who are interested in marrying me...
Reply:Athough it seems like an easy way to meet people


there are too many fakers/scammers outhere wasting the genuine people's time


you can't really trust them, as you can be any one you like as its anonymous





There must be easier ways to meet new people


at least if you go to a bar you can see face to face.
Reply:you should try placeing a personals add on jtbids.com


its free
Reply:First of all, Joseph, you're a great looking guy, so don't sell yourself short. I do think you need more than one picture on any profile, though, and they should reflect your lifestyle and interests, like if you like to surf, then a pic of you at the beach, etc. you get the idea.


Also, remember that alot of women, myself included are just scared to trust anyone they don't know, because we've all seen movies, and heard true life horror stories.


Check out your profile, or, better yet, get a trusted friend to do it. Maybe it could be updated to seem more lively and interesting.


Lastly, remember that allot of people who post profiles aren't seriously intending to ever go through with an actual date, they're just posers.


Keep trying, and good luck, I'm sure in time you'll score the big one!
Reply:I hear you brother. First time I registered on Match.com I got 2-3 responses everyday from attractive women. Since I met many and dint have anything in common, things fizzled away. So next time I re registered and then booom, not one in 5-10 days! so it really depends. Women on these dating sites are way too careful, whereas we as men mostly look at looks.


And also women tell me that they get 100 winks a day and have to hide their profiles and men dont get more than a wink or two every day. So , its diff for both sexes. Dont get disheartened, its not cause of you, its cause of themselves that these women dont get in touch with you. Its their insecurity , not yours.
Reply:Find women in the real world, not the internet. Join some clubs, take dance lessons or cooking classes, volunteer. Otherwise you have no idea what the women are really like.
Reply:I would say that maybe it is the way you are approaching them first and not letting thme contact you first. Just sit back and wait someone will contact you in due time.
Reply:because your a moron?


work at walmart?


good luck dicweed!
Reply:Well i would say that you should get an up-to-date picture of you at a picnic or with friends, andnot staring down the camera in a dark corner. Women noramlly would rather go for a guy who they see from a picture can have a good time with people and has a personality. Maybe try and not seem so outwardly looking for someone but rather like you're just looking for people to hang out with. and if helps i'd watch "The pick up artist" on VH1 because he has some amazing tips.
Reply:you are not so good in talking.firet you impress women by asking about her and give good answer when she asked about you.if they talk long then send friendship request.
Reply:You look like a serial rapist that's why.











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Reply:Ouch. I understand though. I helped my mom out with this, and a few friends as well. Try this. Email one of these gals, and say something short, yet sweet. IE- Hey there. Just thought I'd drop a line to say i hope you had a great day. After all, an amazing smile like yours should never hide behind a frown. :) Something cute, and friendly like that is more attention getting then anything. Feel free to email me if you need any help. Good luck! :)
Reply:Hello. Here's my advice:





First, the pic you show is a bit intimidating, not bad, just intimidating. Women like to see men in more natural pics rather than poses. Do you have a dog or cat? You could put their pic up. Do you have any pics of you with your friends or family? You need to have at least one pic on your profile smiling. Women need to see your teeth. Some of us won't even respond to someone if we don't see a full set of pearly whites. Your teeth don't have to be perfect, we just need to know you have them and are confident enough to smile.





Second, you have to make sure you do not mispell anything on your profile or in your emails. Most women get instantly turned off by that. I know I do.





Good luck!
Reply:Keep trying. You're not a bad looking guy. I usually don't think most white guys look good bald, but you actually do. Don't give up if that's the way that you want to meet woman, try other dating sites. Good luck.
Reply:because the internet is not meant for dating! it is meant for having fun. GO GET A REAL GIRLFRIEND!
Reply:that picture sucks. sorry. you look like an axe murderer. just my oppinion. Try some new pictures, try to look happy or caring. i have a profile on friendorama and i get messages always, my picture is good (it's one of dozens of pictures) and my profile is vague but funny, it's actually sarcastic because I don't have a job and know that dating would be useless. my headline is from a car ad, like a sales pitch but for a car. low mileage, roomy interior etc.
Reply:I'm gonna be blunt. While you are attractive, this pic you're using...well you look like a stalker. I can picture you hiding in bushes. I'm serious. Take other pics of you smiling! You're cute!
Reply:place a fair profile in and don't be to picky just yet and play hard to get for once..
Reply:honey it is not only you who is not succefull


internet dating are very dangerous cause you never know who you talking to and if the person is telling you the truth


for example they can be pretending they are a girl but they are a boy


see my point??
Reply:Become a professional athlete, Shaq, and they will flock to you.
Reply:Perhaps you are trying to hard? Or not enough? Try for a happy medium. (Or try non-online dating again it could work)
Reply:U r probably overly nice to them and they think that u r a sap. Sorry bro but u can’t believe everything that women tell you. Trust me, even though a woman will claim that she just wants a “nice guy” she really doesn’t. They say that because that’s what they think that they should want. Don’t make a doormat of yourself. Provide a few interesting details about yourself and tell them that if they want to know more then they will have to meet you at a local coffee shop for a face to face conversation. Good luck!
Reply:Well, perhaps you are lame.
Reply:It is either you are not the type of man other women wants or other women are not the type of women that you want.





You should keep trying or stop doing internet dating.