My boyfriend is still on an internet dating site?

In June, I discovered that my boyfriend of 8 months is still on a dating internet site. It bugged me (and still does, to a point) that he still needs to look. When I confronted him about this in June, he assured me that it’s not a big deal and that he isn’t looking to meet anyone else. I didn’t want to control the situation because I know that that wouldn’t work, it would only make the matter worse. I do trust and believe him, since we are together daily, but some days I feel insecure about it (like today). I am patiently waiting for him to delete it, but it’s been 8 months later, and he still checks it every couple of days or so. My gut feeling is telling me that he is on there really just for the acknowledgement and/or boredom. Like I said, we spend all our free time together and I have met some of his friends and his mother. I really don’t want to make a big deal of this to him, but at the same time, in the back of my mind I know what he is doing and I feel like at any point he’ll tell me that he’s met someone online and wants to date other people. So with that I am trying not to feel too much for him, but after 8 months, it’s starting to get difficult to not feel anything serious for him. What should I do? Leave it alone or continue to bring it up?

My boyfriend is still on an internet dating site?
If you and he are in a relationship and he is still accessing an internet dating site, that is a red flag that says he's still holding out for something or someone new. Or extra. Or better. Get rid of him. he's not serious about you.
Reply:if he still has an internet ad on a dating site then you are just a go between girl. What I mean by a go between is that he is with you until he finds someone else that is more interesting. If it erks you then dump him. THere is NO reason why you need to ask him. That should have been an automatic.


A long time ago I met this guy online and he actually deleted his ad after we met. its called respect for the new relationship. If you decide to stay in the relationship then learn how to deal with his internet ad exisiting.


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Reply:START YOUR OWN AND REQUEST HIM TALK TO HIM AND SEE IF HES CHEATIN
Reply:8 months have been a long time. Set you rules. Have him delete it. When you continue to allow him do it then you are also allowing him to let go easily if some petty things don't go well with you. We secure our car, our properties, our life and pay for insurance... then how else do we secure our boyfriends but prevent them from "walking around wearing a sign "available"? If he doesn't want to -- then think about it! because definitely it will be a continuing issue...
Reply:Why are you letting this man disrespect you? A relationship is not only about trust, it is about respect also. If he is so bored why not read or get a productive hobby? He is just making lame excuses so he can have his cake and eat it too! You are at fault to because you are LETTING him! If it were me he would have been kicked to the curb! Eight months and he still can't commit? Definitely not relationship material! Give him the steel toe boot! It is not worth it! Also work on your insecurities, because the way I see it you have to be insecure if you are letting someone trample all over you like this! Good luck!
Reply:You should be the person that your man looks to for support or regarding an issue that needs a womans input. Not the women on dating sites.


I'm quite sure if the shoe was on the other foot, he wouldn't like it to tough. Would he even care at all is the question???
Reply:My boyfriend has done the same thing, and i think its just to see what kind of girls are interested in him. He never acted upon anything and just read or looked at what they said, i guess to make there confidence higher or something. Im having trouble with my dude and him asking girls for naked pictures, hince the question i just ask lol. so it could be worse.
Reply:Set him free!
Reply:Get over it, hes not cheating if hes always with you, but if u keep moaning about it, maybe he'll give you something to moan about!!!!
Reply:ok.. this site hes signed into


is nothing to get ur butt hurt over..


its not like hes goin to screw another chick virtually..


he stayed with u for 8 months.. that should be enough to not to worry about anything.. its just an account he had before u.


that's all u should think it is. nothing harmful
Reply:Dump him!
Reply:Talk to him again and ask him to delete it. If he doesn't delete it I suggest that you start looking for someone else because he might not be taking your relationship seriously. If you really love someone and are serious about that person you wouldn't be on internet dating sites not even for attention.





Something similar happened to me and he said he "rarely" checked the site and I asked him to delete it and he told me he didn't use the internet that often so I deleted it for him and that was the end of that. Also, you might want to ask him to see the emails that are sent. Mine let me see the emails. If he lets you see the emails then there's no problem but if he doesn't then there might be a problem.
Reply:F*ck somebody else
Reply:What are YOU doing on an internet dating site.
Reply:dump him
Reply:it IS a big deal, and you SHOULD take control of the situation. Tell him to get off of it, or goodbye. He is looking. He's not comiting to you fully because of it. Leave now before it's even more difficult to do so later. YOU deserve someone who wants to date you alone and not keep looking.