Internet Dating - can you fall for someone you havent met?

I fell in love with my partner before we had even met. We found each other via a well-known gay dating website. I got it right and we're now living 'happily ever after'. (married, joint mortgage, 2 cats etc)





Was my experience a one-off? Has anyone else ever had the same? What are your thoughts on internet dating in general?





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Internet Dating - can you fall for someone you havent met?
Absolutely anything is possible. I don't believe you have to go out clubbing, meet people date to get to know them. I'm presuming you had numerous conversations with your partner before you even met. That is the getting to know them bit. It is this stage that you iron out all the creases and get to know if you and he were on the same level and had the same things in common. By the looks of your domestic arrangement, it's worked out for you really well, so no I don't think your experience was a one off, and congrats that its worked out well for you.
Reply:I personally haven't had it happen to me, but a number of people I know have met people who they have had lasting relationships with, some even have had marriages. So yeah I think its possible, sometimes the Internet is just a great way to open the door a little, be able to meet people outside of the general area.
Reply:Found my girlfriend through the internet. No marraige or anything yet but going good for 2 years now. And i don't see any reason for us to seperate. Congrats to you and pl who say it doesnt work i know quite a few ppl who have done it.
Reply:Oh yes falling in love with someone you have not met is easy. There is the ideal of that person, but im sure a lot of that is not as it would be once you have met someone. I dont mean everyone but for quite a lot yes. You were lucky and Im pleased for you and I am sure that it works for a lot of people and why not. Some are not as they appear.
Reply:i like someone over the net and he also likes me, we havent met yet but i hope we can make something out of it in the future


hope you and your partner have a great life together :)
Reply:I think when you meet someone on line you mind fills in a lot of blanks for you and therefore you fall in love with the idea of someone in many respects. Many times the blanks are filled in with wishful thinking and ultimately incorrect assumptions.


I am sure there are cases where the assumptions are correct or the truth is equally as pleasant.
Reply:These days most of my Friends at university all seem too meet their partners on line first from my space or something. Whether it works out is another thing cos we are teenagers but it may do. But yes people do fall in love without meeting people.


watch 'you've got mail' :)
Reply:U're probably advertising,I don't think it works %26amp; if it does work,why only the dating site %26amp; not the other sites? Exp: hear yahoo Q%26amp;As. Or is it becos is free hear at yahoo Q%26amp;A or is only for educational purposes. I don't think so,people can date/meet anywhere as long as they want/willing to. All that matters is,if is next door or distance away we have the right to know what we're getting ourselves into.
Reply:I've heard of people doing that, maybe one day it will happen to me since I'm on the internet quite often.
Reply:You can fall in love with the idea of someone and what they have shown you in your messages to one another. But you have to take further time to get to know them.





Then I think. You did





I am still waiting to find mine.
Reply:more and more people get known on internet,,,,personally find it ok,,,,,but am skeptical to find someone for life there,,,,but it could happen and in most cases it does.


If i like his personality,,,i think i could.
Reply:Well sometimes you can if you get lucky, but people i see that dated online mostly has a divorce after a weak. When ure online, just be csrefull to who ure chating wid. =]
Reply:I met my husband online seven years ago. We wrote each other several times a day, then started calling each other twice a day. We fell in love with each other's philosophies and ideas. I liked his picture and he liked mine, but that wasn't what attracted us. We had really similiar ideas about how we wanted to live and what a marriage should be. We were in love before we met. We met in Las Vegas five months after we met on online. We haven't been apart (except for business trips and a family emergency) since.





I had dated a lot of people before him but the experience of putting words to paper and really thinking about what we believed and wanted, made this relationship better than any one I had been in before.
Reply:Well put it this way. If you sat in your favourite bar every night for the next 10 years, what are the chances of a perfect partner walking through the door? - or even a 75% perfect one?





But on the web we can meet eligible partners really easily.





No, the internet is here and we should use it. And I bet it's a lot better for you lads than hanging about in the bushes etc, no offence intended.
Reply:I havent, but you have proved that it can work out. Im sure this has happened to a lot of other people too.Glad youre happy. x
Reply:I think you can yes, you just need to find the right person.
Reply:aw that's cool.


There was a guy who contacted me through friends reunited who I went to primary school with, we emaild lots and then finaly met up.


He lived too far away though, so it didn't work out... I guess that's one of the problems, they could live anywhere or even be really annoying in real life, but it's a great way to get to know someone if you're not good at making the first move in 'real life'.
Reply:Yea! I'm happy for you. I personally haven't done this but I know 2 couples who have. Such sweet stories
Reply:I guess its possible. If your looking in the right spots.


Ive met people online that im good friends with now but never fallen in love or anythnig


But Im glad for you and good luck with everything.
Reply:Well my gf IM'ed me 4 yrs ago and we're still happy together :)





Guess we just got lucky!
Reply:lol well done i met my partner on myspace a few years back...i was one of those who used to tell people these things would never work but 3 years down the line...funny how these things happen in life,and i do know quite a few other people who met on the net and seem really happy,seems this the way you meet, going to clubs and pubs so old fashioned these days!
Reply:Generaly this does not work but as you have proved there is the exception to the rules and everyone has the right to be happy
Reply:Same for me, although we don't live together i've been with her 10 months.


I think it goes on a lot more than people think, you always hear the same old judgements like 'oh you never know who they might be' and 'that's just for weirdos' but these are people who clearly haven't experienced it themselves.


It also shows how well you can interact with a person even though its not face-to-face, I think internet dating is best for making excellent foundations with someone before you meet them.


I'm happy for you. :)
Reply:I could not fall in love with someone I have not meet. I could become interested in someone but to truly fall in love I would need to communicate with them personally. There is something about face to face communication that is more intimate as compared to online or by phone.
Reply:You got lucky =)
Reply:Yes it is easy...you fall in love with that person for their mind. You are apart and it makes the longing deeper. Once you meet it all falls into place.
Reply:I guess but if you have internet dating thats really sad.