Internet dating... did I do the right thing?

I know that not anymore this is crazy..internet dating... but 5 years ago.. if you told or said anything about liking anyone off the internet you were CRAZY.. well I was crazy.. and at 15 I didn't think that I could like someone... but I did. I met a boy one year older from me.. and at that time I didn't think anything about it.. We talked.. that was it.. then we started talking on the telephone (after 2 years) by then.. I felt for him more than I had felt for any person I had met in real life. It came time for that summer to come and we made plans for him to come in.. that time rolled around and.. He didn't show.. I am now 19 .. and he still hasn't shown up.. but he promises every summer that he'll come.. I know you can't understand all of it.. but I told him that I had to move on.. But I know I'll never feel the same again. Should I hop on to a plane and take fate into my own hands.. or should I stand by my decision.. and just move on.

Internet dating... did I do the right thing?
Honey, it is best you just let it be and move on. It sounds a lot like he is only wanting an online fantasy type relationship with you. I have had this happen, too, and once you realise that is what is going on, it is time to put an end to it. When he didn't show up that first summer with no explanation at all, that was the first sign that things weren't right. He has YET to show up, so you can be guaranteed that he never will. I know that it hurts because, as I said, I have been there, too. But you are still very young in the grand scheme of things and you WILL meet someone who is right for you. He might be from the internet and he might not.. it really doesn't matter. All that matters is that he has consideration for you and your feelings and that he keeps his word.. Not ALL guys are the same.. just like we girls are not always the same.. but for your own peace of mind, let this one go. He just is not worth your time. good luck.
Reply:No one can tell you what to do and what is a good decision. You are the only one that knows what is in your heart and how you feel. If you think it is right to hop on that plane and find out for yourself then do it. If you really believe you should just move on then do it. Life is to short to live with regrets so do what will make you happy in the long run even if it don't work out. Good luck.
Reply:thats tough but belief there will be others. if you really cant forget about him do what you need to do to make sure if hes yours or not. but in all honesty i dont think hes worth it. when it comes to me and mine id do anything to prove my worth
Reply:Some fantasies better remain what they are.


I had a similar experience although in a little bit of different context.


I once met a very pretty and interesting woman on one of my business trips around half the globe. Subsequently, I feel in love with her and wanted to see her again. We emailed, talked on the phone (Internet wasn't that popular and advanced back then), and we made a lot of plans to meet somewhere in the middle. Anytime it got very specific, she chickened out. Until once I was very close to the place where we always wanted to meet. There was a great tourist attraction and she wanted to meet me there for us to spend a short holiday together. Pretty much 3 days before the date, she cancelled again. That's where I gave up on her in the sense of believing she could be the one.


One year later, I went for a vacation in the country where she was living and of course met her. It was wonderful, she was still the great lady I had imagined and memorized and we spent three wonderful days together. However, as much I had a lot of feelings for her again, I had this strange feeling, too, that she was o.k. with those three days but would not want more. We're still in touch today and good friends. But I strongly believe we are not meant for each other and will not pursue anything more than the friendship we have.


I had a number of other relationships during this time and met other interesting people. So just move on.. If you're really meant to be together, it will work out, sooner and later. Until such time, enjoy your life and be open to whatever may happen.