Tried speed dating, clubs, bars, internet dating, but I can't get a girl! What am I doing wrong?

This may sound sad to you, but as a 27 year old male, I've only had one relationship. I've gone on various dates since, I've tried speed dating, clubs, bars and internet dating, but I just can't seem to meet girls!





For example, I thought going to nightclubs would be great, I mean so many girls dress up and look amazing. Yet when I'm in them, the girls are acting stuck up. They don't wanna dance with any men. In fact they either stand looking at the dancefloor or wine up against their friends. I look around and see men looking confused with their drink in their hand!





What's up with that? Having a dance with a man doesn't mean they have to give him their phone number or go home with him that night!





Other times I've seen attractive girls on the street on their way to work or at work in shops, but it's near impossible to chat to them as they're busy.





My friends to help me out as they are too busy looking out for themselves. In fact, most are in long-term relationships with kids.

Tried speed dating, clubs, bars, internet dating, but I can't get a girl! What am I doing wrong?
If you go to a dance club that plays hip music, chances are the girls won't dance with you, and not just you but most guys, because this type of music is not very good for dancing with somebody. Girls that like to dance, will dance alone or with their girlfriends. No one likes their space invaded and being their chest rubbed against. I personally can't stand when someone asks me to dance. It sounds so bad, "would you like to dance?" If I like to dance, I will dance alone, or I am already dancing alone. Get the idea? The best approach is to ask a girl if she wants a drink. Even if it's just club soda, no one will turn down a free drink. Once you get her a drink, she will feel that she has to at least have a small talk with you. It always works for guys that hit on me. Also, if a guy starts hitting on me, but doesn't offer me a drink, I will be offended.





As far as picking up on girls at public places such as a girl walking on the street on the way to work, it is not a good idea especially if she is running late for work. It is really annoying and defeats its purpose. But there are many places that are actually good for meeting people, such as a caffee during lunch break, when people are more relaxed, or a starbucks. Funny thing, I was sitting at a starbucks one day checking out a dating site and a guy came up to me and said "I noticed you were looking at an internet dating site. Are you looking to meet a guy?"
Reply:Clubs are hard to meet girls in (I think). That whole Pink song You and Your Hand? Yeah....girls go to clubs to dance and flaunt what they got and try to get free drinks. You're probably not going to meet your soul mate there. I would go to clubs with my friends and I'd dance with guys, but my friends would turn their backs on any guys trying to dance with them, with a "get the f*** off me" look on their faces. I don't know why, but that's how girls are in clubs.





Anyway....if you see a cute girl working or on her way to work, give it a shot and ask her out! It takes balls, but what the hell? The worst she can do is smile and say, "No thanks", and you'll make her day either way. That's how I met my husband! He walked up to me while I was working in cosmetics at the mall (during Christmas, even) and asked me out. You never know how you'll meet her! :) Keep looking and don't give up.
Reply:You dont meet life partners in nightclubs, well very rarely anyway, you need to join a club of some sort, or maybe a evening course in something, a common interest is usually the first thing that happens in a relationship, just relax a bit, get on with your life and let things happen, rather than try to control everything, it will happen, but probably not in a nightclub or bar!
Reply:Trying too hard. That's all, you sound desperate and that will show. It's the biggest turn off.
Reply:Shave your hair, book a long weekend in a garrison town hotel (cheap) and pretend you're in the army.





Garrison girls love a solider.





Failing that weird bit of advice, just stop looking.





All will be well soon.





Good luck.
Reply:Women practice dismissal, fear, and preoccupation. Men need an opening line, small talk, and to close with getting a telephone number or a date. The number one dating advice for women is "play hard to get".





Obese blobs, (that are 50% of the population), have immature hysteria that causes delirium in good looking women. The environments in this society are .1% good looking women.





There are 21 organizations spying on the population with plain clothes agents. No one has ever seen the start of a relationship.
Reply:you are trying too hard. take up some healthy activity and meet people who have things in common with you. then you'l have something to talk about. when people go to clubs and bars they are out for the pose and can't really hear what you are saying. the internet is full of fantasists and liars..you want something real then do something that makes you really interesting..martial arts, sports, acting, dancing lessons whatever you fancy but boozing women and those who stay home to chat online are giving you no chance.
Reply:I'll try helping as I am a girl - i seem to do this when guys come up to me at a bar but its usually cause they've tried a really cheasy line and they're just like everyother guy out there! try something different: go up to her and say something totaly unexpected...to get her off her guard...something to make her laugh! sending a drink usually works to- get a bartender to bring her a drink - try something different like a yagerbomb....also - girls in big groups don't usually go to bar to "pick up" they just want to have a girls night and usually get annoyed if guys try! they are also alot more confident in groups - try for girls that are with 1 or 2 friends :) eye contact usually works too....if she won;t take the time to look at your...she's probably not worth it :) hope this helps
Reply:Well one lesson i've learned: Don't talk about sexual fantasies involving necrophillia and axes during ur first date!!
Reply:Isn't there anyone at your workplace you find attractive? Or do you take any classes where you could meet someone with the same interests? You need to lose the desperate look and try to concentrate on making friends with a woman first - nightclubs and on the street are not ideal places to meet people. Why do you say the women you see in nightclubs are stuck up? Do you ever ask them to dance?
Reply:Maybe you are trying too hard, give it a break and stop going out at night, you won't find good girl material at bars or clubs, try daylight dating, go to cafes, and bookstores (good place to start a conversation) and try to look very relaxed if you act too desperate they will runaway from you.
Reply:just be yourself thats all girls want - it wil happen at the right tiem
Reply:sounds like ur trying too hard





where do u live lol
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Reply:Well when I was into the club scene in England a long time ago the man would always have a friend and that friend would hook up with my friend (she always got the good looking ones!) and the other would hook up with me and we would all go out on the first date together if their was one. You can't expect a girl not to care about the friend(s) she is out with.
Reply:Maybe Yahoo Answers is the answer... lol...I'm 21....
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