Internet Dating - Meeting in real life, but not soon enough?

Hi,





I met this girl over internet dating. We have been chatting nicely, and have decided to meet up, but I don`t think we can meet up soon enough. She is going to another city over the weekend.





My problem is that I do want to meet up with her as soon as possible, as I know other guys are also showing interest in her on this dating site.





What should I do in such a situation?


Could this mean that someone else can get there first?

Internet Dating - Meeting in real life, but not soon enough?
Just relax. Me and my boyfriend met on internet dating and we took it very slow. We chatted and got to know each other a little bit and then we decided to meet up in person. If it is meant to be it will.
Reply:i no what u meen i was getting to no this lad from the internet bt i did kinda know him through a distant friend we were talking for about 3 months we then met up in town but it was to late and he ended up with another girl, i would say first u really need 2 no who it is ur meeting its nt a compleat strainger, talk a friend with u when u meet her 1st time just 2 be safe


good luck
Reply:I would suggest to get her number ...if not check where she is going and try to make whether its possible for you to reach there and spend time with her. Don't put this off for one or two days....Each and every minute is important in love...so act fast and meet her as soon as possible. But make sure she is also comfortable with your plan...
Reply:Wow, why don't you try finding more girls to take up some of your time instead of concentrating on just 1 girl.





You know she has other people showing interest in her, so why are you putting all your eggs in one basket?





Because "she's different"?
Reply:If it's really meant to work out, you don't need to worry about other guys "getting there first." If you're truly compatible, when you do meet, you'll be the one she chooses.
Reply:Geez, relax. If she likes you then she'll likely want to meet you when she's available. She may or may not be chatting with others...
Reply:Don't do it. You don't want to end up meeting a man, pretending to be a woman.
Reply:chill out. It's not a race. wait till she's ready to set up a date.
Reply:Okay, before you decide to meet, how long have you been chatting online? Remember that people often get a quicker sense of intimacy over the internet, but when you meet in person you could totally not click at all.





To be honest, there's nothing you can do if other guys are interested in her. If she's on a dating site, she's probably trying to choose the best option, and that's her prerogative. You have no real "claim" on her yet - she's not a tree that you've peed on.





Since she's already agreed to meet you, then you should be trying to figure out where and how to meet, not how to keep her from meeting up with other guys. My suggestion is that you find a place to meet that's a nice, quiet place in a public location where you can sit and talk to each other in person (like a coffee shop). Each of you should drive individually, so if it doesn't go well and one of you wants to cut the date short, you're not stuck and dependent on the other person to bring you home. Going there separately also protects your privacy and safety, as well as hers.





My bf and I met online through eHarmony and met up for a date after about 3 weeks (it helped that we ran into each other at church, or it probably would've been longer). We kept our first couple dates between an hour and an hour and a half long, and didn't go to each other's homes until we'd been dating for about 2 months or so. This was about a year and 7 months ago, and now we're getting engaged, so if you play it cool and don't put on too much pressure, assuming you hit it off in person, then there is a good chance that it could work out for you. The hardest thing is determining if you're compatable in real life.