Internet dating hasn't worked for me. What next?

I'd really like to meet someone special. But the internet dating thing (match) hasn't worked for me. I'm 26 years old and I've never been in a relationship. Just never met the right person, and I've never wanted to have a boyfriend just for the hell of it. But I'd really like to find true love at this point in my life.





I'm an attractive girl. I tried the internet thing, because I don't like meeting people at bars or clubs. I'm not into clubbing because people are never genuine. I only go to bars to hang out with my friends. Not to get laid. And generally men seem to hound you down at clubs and everyone is trying to get laid. So I stay away from places like that.





How can I meet some genuine? Without internet dating...and without being hunted down by sexual predators on a night out.

Internet dating hasn't worked for me. What next?
You just have to stay open and receptive to meeting new people, no matter where you go, who you meet, and what you do.





I was on Match for a while, but it just seems like a giant meat market. You might do better with Eharmony, if you haven't tried it and are looking for something serious.





You can also try Yapclub.com-- it's more a social networking group than purely for dating, but you never know. You might not meet someone directly, but maybe a friend of a friend of a ... you get the idea.





Finally, you should definitely get out, and start doing the things you have always wanted to. You will meet people who share the same interests, values, etc. more naturally this way, without focusing on the "I'm single, you're single-- are you just in this for the sex?" angle as much. Volunteer and community work can be great for this, in addition to helping a worthy cause.





Happy hunting, and good luck!
Reply:It hasn't worked for me either.


I am now thinking about going to a salsa class, not just because I am impatient to meet a guy, but because I also want to improve my social life.


Want to make friends and talk to people.


Like you, I don't want to be with a man just for the sake of it.


I am really hoping to fall in love and to find the right person for me. So, well, try a social activity?


Good luck.
Reply:Without dating, using the locations you've become accustomed to and trial and error(including sex and emotional commitment of some sort), you're out there in a void. Nobody is going to come riding up on a white horse and carry you away to his castle to live happily ever after! This is real life, it ain't no dress rehearsal; you either get into the fray or stand outside the ice cream shop ogling all the other kids jostling for their favorite. Some of it makes yo sick, some of it you love for years and years, but there ar NO guarantees...sorry, that's just the way it is.
Reply:Stop trying. As soon as I did I meet a girl who eventually became my wife.
Reply:go hang out on some nice places except the likes of those you mentioned.





actually, meeting someone genuine and having a relationship with him is not something you can plan. i know you know this already, am just reminding you.





what about going on travels and vacations? widen your horizons.





i wish you the best of luck!
Reply:Try joining a book club, a charitable organization, a singles club in your community. Check out the social section of your newspaper to see what activities and clubs are available.